Practice the Preaching ep8

First a Confession

I have let my not being well slow me down over the last week as far as my progress is concerned, Sure I managed to get a post out https://thetraineesuperhuman.wordpress.com/2019/05/26/fragility-of-dreams/ that was really well received (and I thank you all for that) but my training wandered a little and my concentration was not what it should have been, I believe the ailment is referred to (at least locally) as Man-flu I am not sure if this is a global epidemic or not but it did slow my roll so as to speak.

However that is behind me now and I am once again back on the clock, this morning went well at 4:30am and I completed a 5k walk and 20 minutes stretching all before breakfast.

As my illness left me and I started to get back into the other side of this journey (money) I got the ball rolling by signing up for Clickbank and having a look round there as well as doing some research on paid for advertising, additionally I started to have more of detailed look around at what other people are doing with affiliate marketing, and most of what I found actually annoyed me, some of the really big names (you will already be aware of them if you are also chasing this particular beast) appear over and over again selling just one thing, their course on how to be an affiliate! then I noticed during a simple 1 hour surfing session that there are a lot of people that sell one particular persons course on an affiliate basis, no doubt this will make some people some money, probably quite a lot but it all seems a little cynical does it not? I heard a comment once and for the life of me I cannot remember the name of the person that made it or I would credit them here (just know that it is not an original line) “you have to wonder which came first the Millionaire or the Guru ?”.

Anyhow I will get more into this in a later post, but as always keep breaking new ground every day, even an inch further than you were yesterday is an inch and means you start today from a better position.

Fragility of Dreams

Chasing Freedom Through Adversity

Firstly let’s get this out of the way, making millions on the internet is like winning the lottery in more ways than one, sure they both feel good and they both set you free and normally happen very fast, a lottery win means you go to bed one night not a millionaire and when you wake up you are (assuming you hit the jackpot of course) and the story appears to be very much the same with the internet, you work seemingly at nothing for a period of time and then you hit that one formula or niche that then sends you sky-rocketing.

But they also share another trait, the desire to participate is a personal decision and anybody who has bought a lottery ticket, just like watching the next “How I became a Millionaire in 7 short days” video, I would be willing to bet has sat and daydreamed about what their life would be like if that money was theirs.

It is our personal dream, our vision and our desire that we follow, and others (usually our closest friends and family) that start to question us as we spend more time researching and looking into how to start and what to do and start watching videos of people sounding very positive and in a lot of cases talking what appears to be non-sense about lifestyles and possessions reserved only for celebrities.

You see our dreams are fragile because we haven’t got anything to show for it yet, nothing physical to stand in our corner when people question what we are doing, what we hope to achieve and in the face of the age old question “if it was that easy wouldn’t everybody be doing it?” you have to protect that dream and hold on to it for dear life, because that is what we are buying, our lives back from the world.

It is so much harder to listen to and defend against negative views and comments from loved ones than the rest of the world, people outside our trusted social circle are easy to dismiss, they don’t know us, they don’t know anything about what we have achieved in the past or what the situation is now, so what possible value could their un-informed comment have?

But our closest circle, have listened to our plans (if you are anything like me probably at length and very enthusiastically), they do know us because the live with us or we see and speak to them on a very regular basis, and finally they are aware of what we have achieved in our lives so far, so their opinion cannot be dismissed so easily can it?

Well here is an odd way to think about it but try this, unless you are lucky enough to have a significant other/spouse, or an enthusiastic business partner that is following your progress and learning and has the same dream as you, then you need to cut them a break, don’t get angry when they question what you are doing and what the chances are, or how much do others make, even “well I don’t see how you can make money from it, it’s just [insert social media here] or why would people buy from you on [insert chosen affiliate program here]” sit down and calmly explain it to them, after all if you do not have the answers to hand then it is a valid question, if you don’t know what you are chasing then is it obtainable ? and if you do have the answers to hand, reciting them and educating your audience will only serve to further strengthen your resolve and cement the process in your own mind.

You cannot explain what it feels like to take off handcuffs for the first time, but you can vocalise the freedom of moving your arms.

Be patient with the people closest to you always, they only see the extra time and the stress and sometimes the disappointment caused by a set back or a plan deviation, a wife/husband may also see the bank balance going down with nothing coming in, and children can pick up on all this and more, when this happens STOP and think back to your images of success, look closely at the faces of the people in the images and make sure you do not alienate them because if you really think about it, those images without those faces are pretty grim.

Money in solitude is toxic, it turns in on us, chase freedom chase life and success, money will follow.

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Wealth, Proper Wealth!

Stop playing at it and commit to changing your life

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I have a job, fortunately for me it is fairly well paid and we can do nice things once or twice a year without too much concern and we live in a nice house, obviously this varies up and down the job spectrum and some people will make more than others and they will have differing lifestyles as a result,

But I have never been happy with the way things are, I along with many many others have always aspired to bigger and better things, and have gained these things using the only vehicle open to me Credit.

  • Credit Card Debt Alone in the UK – An average of £2,688 unpaid on Credit Cards per household
  • Credit Card Debt Alone in the US – An average of $7,000 Per Credit Card Holder

Another staggering example of how much this costs to repay I found actually on a letter from my Credit Card company, at current rates If I borrowed £1,000 and made the minimum payment each month it would take 20 years to pay it off and I would be paying over £2,500 in interest!

This is because we are conditioned from an early age to listen at school get jobs and prop up the corporate system with interest payments on a borrowed lifestyle, a Job will in the vast majority of cases keep you poor.

What is the Alternative ?

A second job? could do but when are you supposed to live? we are here for such a small time and the and even smaller amount of time to enjoy freedom of choice and self-responsibility so no a second job is not really the alternative, besides in the UK (and I am sure elsewhere) when the Government get wind that you have a second job and might be trying to improve your lot in life they increase the TAX on it to the point where in most cases it becomes worthless.

We are doomed then ?

Again, no there are (and I know I do not need to tell you this) many many ways to become rich, the internet has changed the playing field and now even vacuous pseudo celebrities with nothing more to say than what they had for breakfast and what underpants they are going to wear today become multi-millionaires, people work hard at affiliate marketing and finally get the breakthrough they need and make a lot of money every day, or they learn enough to peddle a course to learn how to market or both!

Ways to make money online

  • Affiliate Marketing – One of the highest potentials as the scope to sell to millions of people is vast, remember a single Dollar from 1 million people is still a million.
  • Social Media – sell your life online, with enough followers you will be contacted by people wanting you to sell stuff for them.
  • Online Market Trading – Again a way to make a lot of money, unfortunately also a way to lose a lot of money, thing to remember here is that you are trying mimic traders, and they have studied at length to do what they do, don’t be fooled into thinking you can get a system and order the Lambo on the same day!
  • Motivational Speaking / Social Media – “Cough Cough” lots of people have set themselves up as motivational speakers and these range from the bland simple posting of a nice picture with some inspirational words over the top to actual content that has been considered and has some value, as a side note I try to be the latter, this has the opportunity to make a small fortune done right, and done right a colossal difference to potentially millions of lives, so win win!
  • Paid For…. – Scraping the barrel a little here I have looked at numerous versions of these and found them all to be paid so little that the time to carry out the task is much more valuable, some may be good but I have not found any yet.

There are also many many more, but these are the main ones I have looked at, the only real rule is to learn, sure get the framework from others who have walked the path, but it is always “Buyer Beware” look closely at the videos, Google the names, although you will always find results that suggest SCAM, look at both arguments equally before making a decision, we can learn from any source it is what we do with the knowledge that is important.

So the goal here is to be the best I can be, and make as much money as is required to not have to worry about money, sure money alone will not bring happiness but when was the last time you didn’t have money on your mind ? and was it that you had to much ?……

One thing I would suggest and is where I have started is to get rid of as much debt as you can, free up as much of your own money as possible and start to buy your way out of the Hamster wheel, most of us refer to it as the rat race but this is to suggest that there is effort in vain, that success will never be attained and that we are participating in self-deprecating activities, but a race can also be WON, so I hope that you like me, will join all the other rats, leave the Hamsters on their wheels and get the cheese just as countless others have.

It would be awesome to get comments below and start discussion among like-minded people, as I said there is always something to learn and discussion as the mother of idea, without it there can be knowledge transferral.

Practice the Preaching ep3

Ok so this morning was a prime example of a perfect storm, I was up late and I had to be in work very early for a change that I was implementing, so as I have said in the past I had to prioritise, ultimately bread on the table always has to win, all other efforts are to support this not in spite of this so there was no walk, no hour of cardio followed by half hour of Yoga, I followed my emergency morning routine.

  • Planks on front, both sides and back held for a minute each.
  • Seated splits stretch held for a minute
  • forward fold held for (you guessed it) a minute
  • Bridge pose held for a minute
  • And finally deep goddess pose ( I wish it was a little more manly ) held for a minute

This is by no means a comprehensive workout but it does help to wake the body up and not let it get even remotely comfortable with the idea of a sedentary life again, remember every time you do something you reinforce it and eventually it becomes habit and then second nature.

Practice the Preaching ep1

As a counterbalance to the vast majority of these types of sites where readers get preached at and are then subject to perfectly timed updates about the authors activities seemingly agnostic of time and the requirement for sleep, I am starting this series of mini posts (they will all be a lot shorter than this one) to catalogue my progress, because I believe each time we do one thing toward a goal no matter how small it is progress.

So if one is late then I probably did it late, if one is missed I probably had something to do other than yoga for instance, but I will try and make them as close to the time I complete the progress as I can, they will never be on a timed publish to appear that I am up at 5.00am when in fact I am tucked up in bed with my cuddly toys counting sheep!

So for this morning, I am going to do 10 minute Yoga routine for flexibility (I am 43 and really need that), a 10 minute Yoga routine for core and pelvic strength (see reason above) and then for cardio I will put in a 45 min power walk (just going quicker than usual with the family dog)

See you all later!

Maximum Effort

One of the things that held me back and I can see holding friends and colleagues back is the effort required to effect change, the world today is an on-demand environment where we have become accustomed to ordering now and receiving now or within a couple of days at most, unfortunately that is not how life works, change takes time and patience and that is where the majority of us fall down because we change an aspect of our lives and when that change has not had the desired outcome in a week we start looking around for something more effective or at worst simply stop and give up on our dream or goal, often reasoning that the people who have what we want were lucky or had some advantage.

What we don’t see is that these people may have been working at whatever it is for years, I wanted to share a couple of tips that I used to manipulate my inner narrative and make progress.

Change of Vocabulary

All too often I used the phrase “I am going to try” or “hopefully this will work”, to try something I reasoned was to accept that it might fail, also because you are only trying something you don’t give it maximum effort because you are not invested in it’s outcome, similarly this goes for hopefully while hope is not a negative emotion by any means it isn’t committed it is not absolute and so if it fails it is not such a monumental event.

I spent a long time trying to get back to the gym, trying to get my studying done and trying to stick to a diet, and guess what I wasted years trying, to be honest it was my lovely wife (the woman in the pictures that accompany some of my posts) that inadvertently changed my outlook on it, she joined slimming world and instead of saying I will try and support you by eating the same and following the plan, I simply said that I will support you by following the plan, to date I have lost six and a half stone, this has taken ten months and has led to me being back at the gym and moving toward being in the best shape of my life.

So I began with replacing trying with doing, hope with make it happen and instead of going on a diet, changing my diet, use words that provide a positive course of action as opposed to leaving the outcome to an outside force.

Believe in yourself

Dead easy to say, not so easy to do, and to be fair I more mean trust yourself, I spent so long questioning myself and my abilities that I managed to scare myself into not taking any action at all, if you think about it I imagine that you, like me juggle a million and one things each day just to keep ticking over and maintain the status quo, and we do this without thinking and without questioning if we are able, because we have to do it, my suggestion and what I have been doing is changing my perception of the status quo, accepting and realising the uncomfortable nature of stagnation and staying where I am and using that to move from “I need to change my life” to “I am changing my life because I have to” having to do something, I mean truly having to do something allows us to trust that no matter what the outcome we will do our best and work as hard as we need to, after all if you can’t trust yourself who can you trust?

End each day with an evaluation

Change as I said is slow, it takes time and effort and can be painful especially when playing against our need for instant gratification, it is all too easy to think that you are not getting anywhere or you are not learning a subject because you are not at your end goal, I realised that knowledge and progress compound, they build on what went before, so if your aim is to, say, learn to build a website and yesterday you knew nothing about it but today you know how to structure the HTML to create a page then that is progress and it should be viewed as such, this also follows with nearly everything else we do in our lives, if we want to lose weight and get in shape, each cardio session or each rep moves us further to that goal and it will become easier the more we progress, the brain and body are amazing at adapting to anything we choose to do to, help yourself as I did by allowing it the time to do so, so I now end each day by thinking about my goals and what I have done to move closer to them, being honest some days it is nothing, not a thing and others it is the tiniest shift, and then there are days that all the effort compounds and I move over a mile stone.

The important thing to remember is that if you are not happy with where you are, as I wasn’t it will not change without you doing something different and that takes effort, so if you are putting the effort in then you think it is a worthwhile cause, and if it is worthwhile then it is worth maximum effort, I have stopped attempting multi-tasking and compartmentalised my activities based on the goal I am pursuing and then put everything I have into it, and it is really paying off.

Learning to Learn

One of the first hurdles I had and my first revelation was that I needed information, lots of information, but it needed to be good qualified information that had Value, I am not alone in searching for ways to make money, build a better body or find happiness only to be inundated with a sea of information that is completely contradictory.

The revelation was that I needed to Learn Faster and so I went in search of how to do this, I found someone who looked promising,
https://jimkwik.com/#free-brain-training

I started following him on podcasts as well, these are free and accessible to everybody, in fact if you input your email address at the above link you will receive three free videos from the courses he uses to teach companies and executives his methods.

This is a cornerstone of the Superhuman training, the ability to learn quickly is invaluable, in fact I would go so far as to say that without it any further endeavours are going to be really restricted in the results you get back.

With the ability to learn a new skill within weeks not years pass exams first time and not have to rely so much on professionals for advice because I can read and understand the plethora of free information the internet has to offer, life goals are that much closer, so where do I begin?

Unlock the power of books

Any given subject any given genre, self-help to technical manuals, books are the fountain of knowledge but without the ability to read them and absorb the information they are useless, I hadn’t read a book cover to cover for years and reading was laborious and I lacked concentration and focus, I decided to tackle this by,

  1. Identify what I thought I needed to learn to progress my goals.
  2. Start to practice reading.
  3. Learn how to focus so I can absorb the information.

First thing I would suggest is like I did pick up a book and start to read a little every day, I started with 15 minutes, and built it up, I am now reading for 30 mins a day, it is important that this is reading time not glancing time, so I prepare by making sure that any foreseeable distractions are dealt with, Turning Off the Mobile Phone and settling down to read and absorb, I also find that earphones with no music playing helps.

A valuable lesson from Jim Kwik is to forget what you already know about a certain subject because we tend to skim over information we already know, I cannot count the amount of times where just reading a passage word for word has revealed a missing piece of information and completed a lesson I had been trying learn, I will start a list of books I have read and update it as I finish each one to show that I am indeed reading as much as I say.

Concentrate on one thing at a time

Possibly one of my biggest failings was fooling myself that I was multi-tasking, I was thinking about business when I was studying, training while I was working and how to fix my life while working out.

I forced myself to stop and focus on one thing a time and while doing that push it to the maximum and really stretch my mind and body, so if it is a morning where I am doing yoga I get up and for the next hour that is all I am doing I do not think about anything else, same as reading I sit down to read with a purpose and do not do anything else, If I am studying a subject that is the only input I will accept, and when I spend time with my family I do that to the exclusion of outside influence, there is no bigger tragedy than your child seeing the back of your phone more than you face.

Using the method above I can condense learning into a smaller more productive time frame because I am not trying to concentrate on something else at the expense of my main focus at that time, as a guide I will keep a diary over the next week and try and explain how I organise my day to fully utilise the time we have.

Enjoy what you are doing

Leisure activities are easy and the time passes quickly, we also tend to remember things we did while playing / enjoying ourselves more than things we find a chore, when the clock runs slowly and you labour over the subject matter you may as well forget what you are doing and chill out for a bit, I try and find fascination in everything I do, I build myself up with excitement at the prospect of learning something new or seeing my children learn something or indeed hitting another milestone at the gym.

Remember why you are doing this

I make sure to never lose sight of the end goal, I struggle like everybody to make it through sometimes and to put the time aside, but whenever that happens I stop and think about life without the worry of money, without being out of breath when running around with my children and living instead of living for the weekend, my advice Picture your goals and remember that anything you learned today however small is a step closer to them, always move forward.

You can’t hit an invisible target so how do you expect to reach an invisible goal?

So the first thing that I started to think about was “what makes a Superhuman?” and here we have the first of many questions that are completely personal in their reply, however there is a certain amount of commonality when considering this question, it is easy to say that a Superhuman has some extraordinary power or trait that sets them apart from the rest of the human race, but as we are nearly all slaves to the Hollywood machine that is about as far as it goes, they can usually fly and see through walls and lift cars as if they were toys,

as tempting as this was for me to be able to aspire too I was painfully aware that I was never going to fly without a plane wrapped round me and I am far to old to start trying pick up cars!

No I had to dig deeper into the question, for me (and it will inevitably be different for most people) a Superhuman had several traits, physical fitness, a caring selfless personality and financial freedom enough that they could live their life without the stress of money and enrich the lives through education and security of our children and loved ones, and it should be noted that at the beginning of this journey I tick none of the boxes.

More History

I realised sometime before my first catalysing event that I had to change my life but I did not look any further than the need for more money, what I didn’t realise was that I was looking for the wrong commodity, you see money in itself is pointless, money unspent is simply paper at most and a number on a screen at it’s least, if your figure is only double digits and you are unhappy then unless you change your environment that figure can become ten digits or more and you will still be unhappy.

I wandered from business idea to business idea with no direction and no idea of what I was looking to achieve as a result I gained nothing, sure I did get a better job but due to lack of purpose or goal I simply grew quickly into the increased income with no change in environment and thus stayed unhappy.

One observation that I did make at the time was that I never had any idea if what I was doing was getting me anywhere or not, progress through any scheme wasn’t quantifiable, I have now realised in retrospect that this was a direct result of having no end goal, ask yourself this, if you set off out of the house with no destination in mind how do you know how close you are? simple you don’t ! and I didn’t and so I wasted years just aimlessly existing and making no progress at all.

Time to Stop the waffle and make my point!

So I sat down and actually looked at my life, took stock of what was making me unhappy and used that to formulate my goals, they were as follows

  • Physical Fitness (I was hugely overweight)
  • Financial Security for me and my Family (we were broke)
  • Time with the people I love and for myself (I spent most of my time working for a pittance and trying out ideas to make a million)

The way I worked this out was to start at the top, what life would look like if I could wave a magic wand and change all that was wrong overnight, then slowly methodically working back from the top identifying what life needs to be before I can move onto the next stage, the process was long but I eventually had the issues in the brackets above, and the goals without brackets.

Now, there is no magic wand, no five minute montage to inspirational music, and here’s a real kicker nobody is going to help you (at least not for free)

So I encourage you to do the same, and before you start remember some key points to help you keep motivated along the way,

Concentrate on moving Forward

Anything in the past is in the past, this is true of any event that has gone before, agnostic of it being positive or negative we cannot turn back the clock we can and should only ever move forward, sometimes that will clearing up mistakes of the past, and that is perfectly fine, in fact the lack of courage to admit past mistakes is what holds a lot of us back, and of course facing the pain of whatever we need to do to fix the mistakes, I tell you something, it certainly kept me back for a lot of years.

You have not failed

A person can only be regarded as a failure if they do not get back up, on your journey, as in mine there will be things that do not go exactly as planned, that is life not a reflection of your effort, and it affects as us all, you have already begun to fight back by looking for an alternative to your current situation.

Don’t forget the cliche

You get out what you put in, it is old and far from original but it is true, 100 percent effort will give 100 percent return, careful though cos 1 percent effort will give 1 percent return, be vary wary of people offering quick fixes to all your problems.

Quick reminder

I am sharing my journey because I fell into every trap and went down nearly every rabbit hole before I learnt how to start putting my life back together, while I will never charge anybody directly for my musings through subscription or such, I do fully intend to make as much money as possible from advertising and affiliate schemes, and I completely encourage anybody to do the same.