So we did it, the Great British public managed to bring the pain of lockdown on itself, best thing for us really, the stupidity of the human race as a whole has never ceased to amaze me, even faced with the prospect of an early and painful death people still believe more in their own home spun wisdom than the advice of any government or governing body, life however from the window looks no different the birds are singing and the sun is shining (sort of) but life is now so very very different.
Why ignore the advice ?
You see this feeds into a lot of what I have been saying about all these books on the subject “of not giving a f**k”, in fact I will go one stage further, you should (if you own these books) find them and carefully take them outside and burn them, every single one, listen the human race has a pack mentality it always has that is why we gravitate to other people, it is in our DNA and in the programming from the very first conscious thought right up to today, after all it is how we breed and sustain the Race, so when somebody writes a book about not giving a f**k they are ultimately lying, sure there is some element of truth in it, but the ability to live that way is a luxury that stems from a stable society, literally the society these people are advocating against, “not giving a f**k” is what drove hundreds of thousands of people to seaside towns and parks this weekend, and it has probably helped to spread the infection by some tangible number, and I am not claiming that I have never considered that way of thinking, but it is only good for selling books, it goes against the nature of Humans and in this particular instance, believe me it could be our undoing.
Opportunity in isolation
Now is the time to start reading, not popular tripe designed to be “controversial” simply to get people buying it, after all if this thing goes much further there will be no need for money, and it will become worthless, I mean pick a topic, programming, language, fitness whatever it may be and take this time to educate, the vast majority of the planet will simply sit back and binge watch shows on Netflix, or busy themselves hoarding beans, pasta and toilet roll, and emerge no better than they were before, any global event is signal and an opportunity for change, take that opportunity and run with it emerge stronger and more educated than you went in, then as life goes back to a steady pace you will enjoy the benefits of your labors even more.
But this is not without it’s pitfalls, choosing the right path now is paramount to how this comes out, and the only way to effectively make the right decision is to do what you want to do most, pick what you are passionate about not what you think will make money in the next 24hrs, because money in the next 24hrs will be worth what it is now, sod all, so pick something that you have always wanted to learn, and learn it, inside and out, but I cannot stress enough that going down the “not giving a f**k” route is partially to blame for the situation we find ourselves in now, so don’t do it because it’s bullshit.
Overall stay safe
Stay safe, follow guidelines and remember you are not missing out, if people are gathering then great for them, hopefully they will get beds together in hospital, or all club together to pay the fine (UK) for the first time in the history (for most of us) this is literally a bid to stay alive, so do everything you can, regardless of any distrust in governments and their minions, and even with all the conspiracy nuts claiming that they are testing biological weapons or preparing us for the end of the world, the only truth you need is that if you don’t get it it can’t affect you simple.
Since the dawn of civilisation man has sought to dominate his fellow man (and women and woman), this appears to be the core of human nature, we seem programmed to either dictate or obey, and I am sure that you are well aware of what type of person you are, the dictators are headstrong and already questioning my point of view, let alone my audacity at voicing it, and the obedient are already nodding in approval at my clumsy summing up of all human nature in less than a single paragraph.
I have never made any secret that I wanted to start this blog to make some money, it is on all previous posts and of course you can see the advertising plastered anywhere on this site that WordPress will allow, but I also wanted to offer my opinion on life and the ways that we can recognise oppression no matter how stealthily it is applied.
I am no revolutionist calling for the dissolution of government and law in order to be free, the loss of these things would only result in control and oppression from another source, society needs rules and controls in place in order to provide safety and security to the masses, and it is under this guise that we are controlled by stealth in a way more sinister and in an order of magnitude that few will ever give consideration to.
What is Life About?
This depends on your point of view, there are two schools of thought.
Learn while at school
Leave school and get a job or go to university and get a better job
Pay TAX and buy things on credit
Save the rest of your money in order to pay for old age and infirmity
Pay off all debts before you reach the end of your working life
Enjoy up to ten years existence before finally dying and leaving space for the next cog in the machine
My View (and increasingly the view of others)
Learn life skills in addition to academia individually focused, the same people that tell us we are all unique are also providing our children with a “one size fits all” education system
Be encouraged to start a business or learn a skill that is relevant or that you have an interest in regardless of gender, race or any other barrier society can think of
Pay TAX and contribute to the well being of your fellow human, sounds odd me saying this but TAX is what underpins civilised society and civic resource without it life would be very very grim
Make enough money to not have to worry about money
Retain the right to anonymity and privacy within the borders of civilised behaviour
Live a fulfilled life where time is spent being productive and forming relationships in equal measure
The right to equality, actual equality where no one person is given an advantage over another regardless of age, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or lifestyle choice
The Origin of Your Borders
All behaviour is learned once we get past the simple functions of breathing and the desire to eat and drink to sustain ourselves, our tastes our likes and dislikes and desires and aspirations are all a product of our education during the most formative times in our lives Childhood and it is this very programming most of us need to break in order to remove the borders we have built because we were taught to, and this is not always a bad thing, parents on the whole teach us what they think we need to know to keep us safe, we are taught to avoid fire and learn to swim to avoid drowning and social skills in order to not feel alone and make our place in society, and it is also a generational thing, generations have held different things in importance, and this has been passed on to the children who have interpreted it and applied it to their reality like a giant game of Chinese whispers, this is then shaped by peer groups and ultimately partners and the responsibility of children in adult life, but what if what you knew was not true or what you were told was designed to extract money time and life from you ?, a heads up would be nice.
Imagine somebody knocking on your door and coming into your house, complaining about how draughty it was and how cold it was, asking about your energy bills and seeming shocked and appalled at how much it was costing you, this goes on for an hour or so and then they announce themselves as a double glazing salesman, you would question everything they said from the outset, why? because they profit from the system they are selling you, well society is the same, and it must be approached the same, the rules and regulations are all drawn up by the very people that stand to profit from the rules and regulations, and while, as I have stated rules and regulation are required for civilised society to function, you should question the design, look past the glossy brochure of a 3 bed semi detached and a nice family car on finance, booking holidays on credit cards and spending nearly every waking hour on social media.
I am not even remotely trying to tell anybody how to live their life, I am just saying that if you are happy truly happy then fine, you do not need to do anything, just simply go on about your lives as you do now happy and content, but if something niggles you in the night or when you see the next reality star millionaire while you are struggling to put food on the table for your family then start a different thought process to the one you have now, and start asking questions.
What the Hell is my Point ?
This is the point, life is a one time deal, until proved otherwise we are here for one go only and this means we have a finite amount of time, the system isn’t set up to favour the intelligent the brave or noble, it is set up for people that know how to play the game, that is why when you go to work 9 – 5 everyday of your life, pay off your mortgage and only take one holiday a year, you end up struggling through old age and if you have to go into sheltered housing or the care system any legacy that you may have in the form of the house you worked so hard to pay off is sold to relieve the burden on the countries fortunes, whereas people that go on TV or post regularly to social media or can get finance, seem to operate with impunity, they live lavish lifestyles and have all the time in the world to build relationships with partners and children, sadly they mostly just can’t cope with the money and end up broke with a drug habit.
So this is my point, the borders you have to wealth happiness and peace of mind are constructed at an early age by the education system and peers, you (without realising it) then perpetuate these borders as you go through life re-enforcing them and in some cases using them as an excuse for an unsuccessful life, but there is another way.
Rule for Success
This is what I suggest, follow it if you will but at least think about it, Failure is a fact of life, there are many many things that we will fail at, either we just are not capable of doing something or we lack aptitude for a certain discipline, but failure cannot exist without a catalysing action, and this is where your borders are hurting you and holding you back, an example from my own experience is this, I was homeless and in need of a job, I had no money and no way to get any, I have always suffered from a fear of heights it at one point in my life was debilitating it was that bad, but this situation was worse, I saw a construction job that involved working away advertised and went for it, it would solve my accommodation issue (if only during the working week) and would provide enough money for food and at the very least a hotel at the weekend to stay in, so I went for it, my first duty was as a grouter, this meant that I had to climb up a ladder in a newly constructed skeleton of a building and pour concrete into the joints, this was in the open with no safety rails just a ladder and a hard hat, prior to this I had to cork the joint, which meant leaning out over the side of the building and pushing foam into the joint, I froze at the bottom of the ladder, and nearly refused to go up, people were watching and it was a little intense, I had told others and been referred to as the one afraid of heights all my life, but I needed the job and the place to stay, so I climbed, and by the third time I was running up the ladder, without any thought to the height or the great expanses of open space, because I removed the border to my progression, because it was self imposed, I perpetuated the conditioning and therefore I could change it, the border didn’t really exist,
And this is what I am suggesting you do, when you think of doing something and the inner voice says that “it’ll never work” or “you can’t because you are no good at it” stop and realise that it is not real it is a product of control exercised throughout your formative life that you need to rid yourself of, forget the border and try, if you fail you fail but you will never again think “what if?”
It is not rocket science that if you have lived a life a certain way for an extended period of time a sudden 180 change is going to take some effort and unfortunately some pain, the issue with a reactive existence is that it becomes very tiring, every situation that requires attention becomes added pressure and a burden, you will have found yourself saying “why me?” and wishing you had a day that wasn’t filled with the stress of juggling so many issues and invariably payments, well that day is coming believe me it is within the vast majority of peoples grasp and usually within a perfectly reasonable period of time.
The majority of the stress caused by debt and a reactive lifestyle actually stems from the time that is required to complete the various to keep your head above water, this ranges from extra shifts/hours at work, taking a second job or waiting on hold for an adviser along with many others that also owe the company money, there are 438000 hours in 50 years (the majority of peoples working life) once you take away the 127750 hours for sleep (assuming 7 hours a night, which if you are reading this you probably don’t get) that leaves 310250 waking hours, now I am not going to go into the time spent brushing our teeth and walking the dog but you get the idea, time is finite, it does not bend to our will and it does end, so let’s try and spend less of it doing things we don’t like and more that we do.
Quantify, Quantify, Quantify
I have said it before and I will say it again, the very first thing we need to do is quantify the problem, get a fresh notepad from the store and sit down with a coffee and literally write out everything you owe and who too, depending on how much you have ignored this will probably be the most painful part of this process as the page builds up into a seemingly indestructible wall of issues, also include not only debts but all the things that you need to do in order to make your life easier, documentation that hasn’t been updated from when you last moved or a niggling pain that you need to see the doctor, even down to your job / career that you either want to change or improve,
once it is there stop and take a look around, nothing has changed as a result of writing this down, your life is no worse than it was before you started, in fact it is now better, for possibly the first time in your life you are now in control, you now have the jump on all your creditors, your boss, and the thoughts that creep into your mind and keep you awake in the early hours of the morning, this sheet and this notebook are now a map to peace of mind, something that should never be for sale but we sell it before we even know what it is.
This as I have said previously is the key, to BEGIN if this notebook now gets shut and never looked at again then what use is it? you haven’t alleviated the problems by writing it down yo have just catalogued your issues, power is nothing without control and you now have created both, don’t shut the book on it and walk away.
I have spent a lot of my time talking about how to improve your health and your wealth, I and millions of others (you included) are all chasing the dream of financial independence, we live it, breathe it and try every day to find the one thing that will push us over the threshold and onto the land of milk and honey, but, how many times have you stopped to think what that threshold is ? what is the goal all about, and after all what is financial independence really?
There are some who believe in a new form of slavery, not bonds of chains and rope but rather we are bound be finance agreements and mortgages, and I have to say that after having given it some thought I have to agree, everywhere we look there is an advert for the latest thing we need to own or do or go to in order to feel successful, and a valued member of society, well it is on the latter that I wish to start.
If you stop and have a look around it is not difficult to see the holes in the fabric of society, consumerism has become king and we have started to allow the creation of global mega corporations that control all aspects of our lives, more now than at any in history society as a whole has become obsessed with consuming and the acquisition of goods, in the absence of leisure activities able to keep up with our “on demand” expectations we have created our own digital escapism and in turn been infected by it’s influence, the YouTube stars we created through our own boredom are now the billionaires that we look up to and aspire to be, we have attempted to become gods and we have failed, en mass we are declaring bankruptcy and filing for divorce children are uprooted and their loyalties tested as parents scrabble for the last vestment of their borrowed life, meanwhile war, famine and global poverty rage through the developing countries like a storm across a meadow, destroying the crops and killing off life with no remorse, so we turn to mentors, motivational speakers and preachers for answers, so desperate that we do not check any credential preferring instead to listen to the mantra of success and happiness that will extinguish the darkness we have created in our lives.
Pretty Grim right? although I have taken some artistic licence I do stand by the above completely, social media has provided a platform for easy money and peoples true colours are showing through, girls young and old post erotic pictures to gain followers and money, lads generally set about doing bizarre things on video in order to attract enough followers to be rich, and motivation evangelists preach their lessons on a 24hr loop to get your subscription, the problem with this is simple, if we created this phenomenon then what can we learn from it? it has been formed by us for us and now we turn to it to help make our lives better?.
This is an example of reactive living, and it is probably the most destructive thing we do, it will prevent you from truly excelling or changing your situation or (as is my main motivation) making a better life for your children and partners.
You see most of us live in a reactive state, a problem comes along and we react (because we have to) we see what needs to be done and somehow we find a way and do it, but stop for a moment, is this the best way ? has being reactive ever got anybody anywhere has it ever been a good solid way to plan a future? the answer is no, if you have to react to a situation it means the situation has become critical within it’s own context of course, and if you have ignored a bill for instance and then a collector arrives on the doorstep you have to react and it always costs more money than it would have to speak to the creditor and work something out, if you are falling off a ladder because you did not secure it properly you will need to react, sure you could aim for a bush or a porch that can break your fall, but you are still going to hurt yourself a lot more than if you secured the ladder correctly and didn’t fall.
In short a reaction tends to save a situation and you can always say “it could have been worse” but what we don’t stop to say is “it should have been better”, over time we have been taught to react, to allow things to get to a critical point and then to make one big herculean effort to clean up the mess, it is what finance and relationships and social media have come to be about, and yet when you speak to successful people nine times out of ten they had a plan, sure they had to react to situations, Richard Branson had to react during his bankruptcies, but the plan remained the same, the drive and the pro-action were identical to the plan prior to the set back, and in this respect a retaliation to a set back is not reactive living it is enforcing your will upon resistance to your cause.
Have you ever wondered when you look at the huge swathes of people that are successful how they got there? in some cases it is easy to see, expert business people who have studied and learned their trade only to make it in their chosen profession or career, to entrepreneurs who picked the right product at the right time and made a fortune probably after a whole load of products that didn’t, but this now extends to the social media types who are famous for nothing more than being famous, they have sold out themselves in some cases and in others they have sold out their children and families for fame and fortune, and for the ones that have really made it there is a lot of fame and fortune, while I hold the majority of the latter in complete disdain it is not because of money, it is because they feel that they have something to give the world other than the tedium that is their life supported by the bored and lonely and they try to educate when they used luck and being pro-active to get where they are not intelligence and reason, you see the one thing that cannot be taken away form these people is the fact that they just did it, whatever it was they decided to do they got up and started, they took a pro-active stance on life and changed the world if not for everybody else then at least for themselves.
And that is the moral of this post, being pro-active should not need any explanation as to how it makes your life better, if you pro-actively change your energy suppliers before the tariff changes you do not lose the money that they take between the charges going up and you noticing enough to do something about it, if you start a business and keep going at it always trying to get that step further along you will be successful in no matter what you do, and you don’t need any earth shattering idea to do it, you just need to shout louder than the other guy, health works on the same principle, if you leave your health until you are hugely overweight and unwell it will take longer to get right again and you will pay the cost of that time of being unhealthy through long term illness or ailment, mental health too, if you start to feel that you are struggling then see someone immediately do not wait until you have drawn a blade across your wrist and are asked why in the emergency room, one of the best things about this as a strategy is it is simple to do, you just have to do it, pick up the phone, design the website, go to the gym or sit down with your partner and work stuff out, but do it and do it now, start today and make a better future for yourself by yourself as nobody else can do it for you no matter how much they may want to.
Controversial I know but hear me out, changing yourself is not always a bad thing if who you have become is what is holding you back, and for the majority of us that is the case, working jobs we hate on a corporate hamster wheel or even worse dead end jobs that are only “filling in time until we decide what to do” the world has educated the masses to believe that we are meant to work we shouldn’t aim high and routinely we, as a group ridicule the ones who dare to dream.
Don’t Change for Others!
Well no, you shouldn’t change for the sake of others, if you are being yourself and people have an issue with that then that is their issue not yours, on a personal level you should never alter your standards or shelve your hopes and dreams for the sake of a relationship, relationships are supposed to be reciprocal and therefore tolerance and in most cases a certain prioritisation of the partners wants and needs should come first and the other way round too, this way both parties are happy and equally valued, and if you had one person in your corner all all the time helping you to achieve your goals imagine how far you would get, this is not the place to change, love and loyalty under a false banner of intention and desire will always end in tears, Always.
Change Everything Else, However
I posted previously a news article that frankly scared the hell out of me, I do not want to work until I die, penniless and without the ability to enjoy my winter years or to help me children achieve their potential in a world that is getting smaller and more cramped, but to make this happen life has to be treated like a business, with the advent of gamer “professionals” and vlog millionaires the bar and the goal has shifted, you are now the business, and unless you treat everyday as a means to an end you will go out of business and be closed down sooner than you think.
The concept of going to work 9 to 5 and making a decent living, retiring at 65 and living a comfortable life at the seaside with a golden retriever and enjoying long walks on the beach with the Mrs in the sunset happy just to have an ice cream isn’t dying it’s dead, it no longer happens, chances are that if that was how you lived your life then the Mrs left ages ago for a younger bloke who sells rubber dog poo with a nice cheery face on it through his etsy store, and vice versa, this may sound very male biased but to be fair women have been just as capable of making huge sums of money as men, are just as capable of putting in the hours as men and the only thing that historically stopped them from achieving the same positions was having to wade through an archaic “old boys club” culture in business and life in general, this is now largely giving way and quite rightly, so the above scenario cuts both ways.
The process begins by having a look at yourself and having the guts to ask “what am I doing wrong?” and with the opportunities on the internet and global reach the way it is today, if you are worried about money in any shape or form then you (like me and millions of others) are doing something wrong, good news is these things are not too hard to spot I have listed below the one’s I found.
Sleep late / wake up late – sounds obvious right? then why do we all do it? realise that if we sacrifice the binge watching of breaking bad now we can watch it in a penthouse overlooking the beach in the future, but for now Sleep because nobody functions properly when tired and irritable.
Don’t exercise – Easy to say, that you want to be a business person or you are too busy to exercise, cardio at the very least is a must, remember you as an organism run on oxygen, cardio will improve your cardio vascular system, so in a basic sense the fitter you are, the faster you are and it takes less time to complete tasks, that way you have more time to do more things.
Take chances – The easy path is the path of least resistance, yet we marvel at people who are flexible and have trained themselves to be able to practise yoga or gymnastics or even bodybuilders. stop to think when looking up to these people is that what you are admiring is somebody literally chose the path of most resistance, if you are pushing so much there is a little pain then you are doing good.
Listen – Real simple, if you knew everything then you would be rich already, listen to as many people as possible, most of what is said will be useless, but there is gold in them thar hills!
Keep Goals in mind – Stop being distracted by everything around you, TURN OFF SOCIAL MEDIA NOTIFICATIONS
If you are looking for something to do while staring at your phone, rather than the latest cat video, or yet another guru shouting at you that their way is best and you should give them thousands to see how, train your mind to be quicker and more agile, try Elevate in the links below (not affiliate links) I will even start a little traineesuperhuman group so we can play against each other.
Now is not the time to start, now is the time to DO the clock has been ticking for some time already and we are literally fighting for our futures, so whatever it is you do, do it better, excel at your chosen field and always run a side hustle, no income is guaranteed that is true, but income that relies on the decisions out of your control needs a backup, because you never know when it is going to fail.
You have been shouted at by a stranger on YouTube and you have started a million and one get rich quick schemes and some get rich slow schemes, nothing is coming in and you are just spending more and more time online trying every different avenue you can to make something, anything work.
You are not alone, the online world from our prospective is split into two camps, the this is what you should do to make money and the this is how you should feel and act to make money, there is no this is how I do it camp, there is nobody who gives any prospective on how long these things should take or indeed how you actually start to make some, any cash at all, and before you start listing the hundreds of millionaires that have YouTube channels and that have catchy titles like “this is how I make $10000 a day from typing” or “watch me build a million dollar sales funnel” let me say this, I am talking about real substance on how you execute these promoted Frameworks, I put together a business idea in a post that can be found [here] where I outlined an online property business that could easily be global and you could do it from that fabled beach in the Bahamas that seems to be the very first trip these people make after making all their money, but here is the rub, the entire thing was useless, not worth a single penny because it has no Method of execution there is no information on how you complete the steps just simply the steps themselves and without that it is like having a Bentley with no tyres on the rims, it looks good but can’t go anywhere.
And it is at this point people fail, when you are sat there after you exhausted all your ideas and you have nothing left to give, it is 2 in the morning and you have to be up for work in 4 hours, but hang on isn’t this what you paid them for? isn’t this the advice that you are supposed to be receiving, well yes it is, so you have a cup of coffee and you remember Elon Musk saying that he worked 100 hours a week and all the influencers on Instagram with the positive little memes all the way up to the ones that simply stand there and tell you that you don’t work hard enough, and you trudge on just getting older, more skint and more and more disillusioned as you scroll through social media watching videos on how well everybody else is doing.
This is the point where motivation just isn’t enough, and this is also where you like others can start to fall into depression, and self -doubt, as somebody who has been there I can honestly say that this is difficult to get out of, almost impossible to live with and will ultimately effect everybody close enough to you to care.
Sounds Grim Right?
Well that’s because it is, I am not going to trawl through the internet to find statistics to dazzle you with the amount of research I did to back up my opinion because I don’t need to, the evidence of the state of society is all around us, it is in our schools, our workplaces and out in the streets, it follows us home and usually sits by the bed all night waiting to grab our attention even if we dare to wake up for a few minutes, I am talking, of course about the age of information technology, a lot of commentators blame Social Media solely for societies ill’s but this simply is not the case, it is the scale of information and demand for attention that is causing the confusion, and yes this encompasses social media, but it also extends to TV, Radio, Cinema, and even the lowly conversation, this is an On-Demand world and anything less just isn’t good enough, and anything other than instant results are also simply not good enough, so when we don’t realise all our dreams of financial success overnight, rather than go looking for the reasons or anecdotal evidence of how long it took the most successful to achieve their goals we look inwards and blame ourselves, we start to scroll looking for the inspiration that will drag us out of our unproductive trench and somehow propel us to the top the way it did so many others.
But this is because when you sit and stare at the screen for hours on end, or watch the latest “make money online video” you are only getting half the conversation, with no context at all, all the people we are taught to look up to have struggled to make their money, Richard Branson had several failed businesses and nearly lost Virgin a couple of times, Mark Zuckerburg wrote several unsuccessful applications including a music program he later gave to Microsoft for nothing, Grant Cardone came from very humble beginnings and if you watch enough videos you will soon realise that Gary Vaynerchuk had a far from ideal childhood, problem is they weren’t famous then, so there is cataloguing of Gary Vee drinking urine from a can because he was being bullied and the Christmas tree business Richard Branson had never made it to the front pages of any newspaper but they happened and created the inspirational characters you see and follow today.
One thing that unites them all now is calm, and I know that sounds odd but bear with me, I know they are not all calm in their approach to life, they scream and shout, book huge auditoriums and have lights, music and pyrotechnics but look at them closely, they are calm, their eyes are calm and no matter the volume of their words they are delivered with a calm certainty that resonates through every syllable, I guarantee they will not have sounded like that when they began, they sound like that now because they know it is a numbers game, it is clear thought and good decisions that make the millionaires of the future a vision and an unerring drive to get there, but it also a marathon and not a sprint, and marathons require planning and they require pacing or you will just be left behind, a sweating crying mass alone by the side of the road, defeated.
Your Recipe for Success
So right back to the beginning at 2am with work at 6am, the best thing you can do is stop what you are doing and protect your job, ask yourself this, when you are changing jobs, do you announce it to your boss that you are looking for alternative employment ? no, or at least I do not because we would fear that it would prejudice our position within the company we currently work for, so why let your venture destroy your security now? get some sleep and come back to it the next day, I guarantee that if you want to succeed it is going to be easier if you are as calm as possible, calm people make rational decisions, they consider the options and often times react very quickly as they have already formulated the course of action and do not need to adjust it once it is in play, “Think Slow, Act Fast”, there are two sides to every goal, the planning and the execution and this is where most of us fall down because we are still planning while we are executing, negating, in some circumstances any progress we might have made to the point of deviation.
As crude as it is (and I promise I will work on my graphic skills) what I am trying represent is that if we start with an exponential amount of planning at the start, we can draw a straight reducing line toward the goal as over time we can decrease effort required as experience and skill increases, whereas if we are constantly in the planning stage the line is a lot more bumpy, there will be times where reaction to events is required to keep pushing a project forward and these are best represented by a triangle along the line, as the effort sharply increases in line with the goal but then once the solution is reached it quickly decreases, my point is to succeed you need to react to problems not lack of planning.
One thing to do and an opinion that is shared by some of the most successful people on the planet is meditation, now you may think that mediation is sitting cross legged and humming to yourself in the Lotus Position, but I would rather you think of Meditation as something more personal, we all have different interests and likes/dislikes, we all have things that calm us and things that annoy us, for instance a very successful APP that helps people study is one that simply feeds the background sounds of a coffee shop the listener, thousands of people benefit everyday from the calming effect this app has on them, I however fell agitated by the background noise of a coffee shop, or any public establishment so for me that app would be a one way ticket to failure!, so pick something that Absorbs your thoughts something that takes you away from reality for a time to allow your mind to completely forget anything other than pleasure, it is easy to pick an activity to achieve this state, simply do something that makes you forget time, by which I mean anything that you do that usually you are so occupied by that time seems to slip away without you noticing, if that is sitting in the lotus position then great, if it is riding a dirt bike then also great, you looking to achieve a disconnect from effort, allowing your mind time to slow down and bathe in a huge release of endorphins, always remember though to set some kind of reminder about re-focusing on your goal and work because without that you could spend all day chilling out and that won’t get anything done!
So in summary, anything worth having takes work and a lot of it, but all the motivational speeches, inspirational stories and success shaming in the world is not going to help if that is not the problem, if the problem is overload and mental fatigue then that is what needs to be addressed, learn to recognise this and switch off YouTube or Instagram or wherever else you go to get your daily dose of persecution from virtual peers that likely are doing no better than you and relax, think slow and act fast, a ten minute rest will lead to a much more productive 30 minutes effort, till next time……..
Well not everything, but all that is important to you, for instance if you are trying to get healthy do not simply look at the label or the physique of the model that is holding the item up on Instagram but rather dig deeper and actually research the supplement or diet change you are about to make, I say this because I have recently realised that the quantity of cod liver oil that I have been using is actually not high enough to provide the amount of EPA and DHA that is regarded as “Beneficial” this is because I like a lot of others just remember that somebody once said that Cod Liver oil was good for you, and I took the recommended dosage because I was to lazy to look any further, this is true of all things physical, medical, business and finance, dig deeper and actually reap the benefits of what you are doing, because if you don’ you are simply spending money and seeing no return.
So here is my example, studies have shown that Omega3 is responsible for the improvement of a lot of conditions to name a few
Depression and Anxiety
Cancer – although further study is needed it has been shown that consumption of Omega-3 fatty acids is linked to the reduction in incidences of, Breast Cancer, Prostate Cancer and Colon Cancer
Heart Disease – Some studies have recorded as high as 25% reduction in heart attacks with the correct dosage of Omega-3 high in EPA and DHA
And this is where my point comes in, you see the dosage for these kinds of benefits is around 250 to 500mg a day of combined EPA and DHA, and when looking at the back of my cod liver oil tablets I can see that the one a day that is the recommended dosage, is providing me a whole 80mg of EPA and 100mg of DHA, so nowhere near enough to help when looking for even the basic benefits of Omega-3 let alone the 850mg dosage that was used in the Cancer study, to compound matters there is even a question over the use of “Cod liver Oil” as opposed to “Fish Oil” again not taking the time to educate myself failed me there too, you see the reason that the supplement companies do not want you taking large dosages of Cod Liver oil is because it is high in Vitamin A and at certain levels this is toxic to the body and will as the levels get higher poison you, this can also be fatal so is best avoided really, before you start panicking however it should be noted that it is widely accepted that the danger point is somewhere around 10,000 I.U. and each Cod Liver Oil tablet I have in my tub provides 2,664 I.U. so one a day is fine but to get the required EPA and DHA intake would mean you were dangerously close to the upper limit as, ironically, the better your diet the more Vitamin A you take in naturally.
Fish Oil on the other hand is available with much larger quantities of the two important ingredients EPA and DHA and as it does not contain Vitamin A it is possible to take enough in to satisfy the requirement to start seeing the benefits of increasing your intake of these fatty acids.
I have made this switch to Fish Oil and upped the dosage to around the 600mg level and will bore you all with the findings in a week or two once I have started to see any changes as a result.
Now, that was quite a long winded explanation about Cod Liver Oil, and although it is informative and I hope it helps somebody make a choice between throwing their money away and actually getting some benefit from a product, it was not really the message I was looking to convey.
If you leave yourself in the dark that is all you will ever see, you will never make any real progress because you cannot make informed choices, a good example of this is, I have been hounded for a few weeks now by a crypto currency based investment company, I know what you are thinking here comes the sales pitch, but you are wrong I won’t even mention the name until they have proved to be a success or a failure, they have contacted me as they have a scheme whereby a team of professional traders send you recommendations every week and you can trade these recommendations with them on their platform and hopefully make some money, it sounds too good to be true right? well that is what I thought and I kept giving them the brush off until I actually thought what if ? what if it isn’t rubbish or a scam ? so I wrote down some questions regarding how they get paid and what risk if any they take and I waited for the phone call, after asking my questions and checking the answers against their website and common sense I actually decided to give them a try, because it sounded plausible enough and I could see the benefit to them of me trading their platform and making money, now it could easily turn out to be a scam but I was able to make an informed decision based on my instincts because I asked the questions I wanted to ask and got the answers.
And that is really what holds a lot of us back, not being able to make a decision because we lack a certainty level where we are comfortable and the reason we lack that level is because we don’t educate ourselves on the prospect in front of us.
Hopefully some of that at least has made sense and I will keep you posted on both the EPA DHA debacle and the crypto currency traders, so if the next post is just a string of sad face emojis I have either gone made through too much Fish Oil or lost all my money, till next time…….
Unless you want to live under a rock in a forgotten place as the only human inhabitant at some point or another you are going to have to communicate with others, the need to communicate is as old as civilisation itself and many many books have been written on the topic, I personally am quite a shy person, I have had a lot of hang ups about my ability at work my physical appearance and my ability to communicate with others in both personal and professional capacities.
The written word seems far easier to control and deliver and is powerful, hugely powerful in fact wars have been started and stopped through the written word and societies changed by adherence to the written rule of law, but behind this and in every case there is people, people to think and then vocalise the thoughts and ideals that we then document to disseminate among the population, through history there have been many documented cases of one person mobilising entire countries through their personality and ability to communicate.
This is not some kind of black magic, and you do not need to rely on hypnotising people to bend them to your will, you simply need to know how to communicate effectively and be likeable, when was the last time you went out of your way for somebody you did not like? we are more likely to put ourselves out or assist complete strangers than somebody who we have actively taken a dislike to.
And the same works in reverse, you are unlikely to be helped up the corporate ladder by somebody that has not “taken to you” and garnering assistance from somebody you do not gel with is almost impossible.
But talking to people is daunting, it can be almost debilitating especially for the first time as the rules of engagement haven’t been set yet, you do not know what type of person you are dealing with, what they think, feel, desire or what they will find funny or insulting, as a demonstration of this I have one friend who considers swearing to be the height of rudeness, as I am sure some of you will, and one that we regularly insult each other with some eye-watering expletives as a matter of course, it is simply the way we communicate, and I have a good relationship with both and have worked very successfully along side them with no trouble at all, simply because I took the time to understand what type of person they were and adjust how I converse with them accordingly, so I have compiled a list of some of the more core rules of communication because it is difficult to make it through life without it and almost impossible to succeed financially or socially without giving consideration to how you communicate with others.
Smile, A very simple first step is to smile, a smile puts people at ease especially in first meetings because it at least shows you are happy to be in their company or pleased to meet them at least, when I say smile I do not mean a great big wide grin that looks as though you are about to burst into laughter, the best thing to do is to actively think of something pleasant, a situation or a person that naturally makes you happy, as smiling is largely an involuntary response the reaction will be natural and not look forced very important as you do not want their first thought to be that you are false!
Eye Contact, Often explained away to easily this one and it is really difficult to get right if you are trying to force it, the tendency is to stare at someone intently after being told to maintain eye contact, but this is just intimidating at worst and if you are dealing with a tower of confidence in the other person they will most likely just find it annoying and it could easily turn into a staring contest, again not a good first impression, the best rule of thumb is to concentrate on what the person is saying and get eye contact for around 50 to 60 percent of the conversation, this is engaging but not confrontational.
Consider the situation, Often overlooked is to consider what kind of meeting this is, and adjust accordingly, for instance in a job interview the interviewer is in a position of power (if you really want the job that is) and you are looking to impress but not dominate, so you would maintain eye-contact at crucial times, when giving answers to questions for instance (looking away when answering tends to suggest that you are searching for the answer) but not overdo it during the more general moments of the interview, if however you are in a position of power and you need to assert authority you would lower your tone and fix the person in your gaze for more of the conversation, this is an instructional position.
Do not shout, Unless you need to shout because of environmental considerations try not to, shouting is largely the loss of control and unless delivered at exactly the right time tends to erode any authority as you are no longer calm and level headed, a lower quieter tone delivered exactly and firmly making sure not to trail off at the end of words is far more authoritative and will get your message across without annoying the other person, when we get annoyed we stop listening, it is a fact, I am sure that you do the same.
Dress for success Well actually just dress for the situation you are going to be in, if you are wanting to be taken seriously in the business world, and you are in a traditional type office setting then turning up in trainers jeans and a T-shirt is really only any good for the monthly office picnic, whereas if you are in a more modern setting a three piece suit is probably not going to help you integrate with the environment, to put it in extreme terms don’t expect to be taken seriously at the annual dentists networking convention dressed as Ronald McDonald!
Try and find Common Ground, Humans are by and large pack animals, we feel most comfortable among people with the same interests and aspirations, by looking for traits in people that you can relate to you can ease most situations and create an environment that is mostly devoid of the deadly silence that exists between people that have no idea what to say to each other, the weather only lasts so long as a conversation but a shared interest in a sport or reading or pogo’ing can last a lifetime of water cooler talk and will most likely create a friendship even if it is at a very low colleague level.
Being socially awkward is not a bad trait and it is not something that you have to change regardless of your need to or not, it is however going to hold you back if you want to make a progression in the business or family life or any social interaction, the world is becoming an increasingly social place, it is a sort of pseudo social to be fair, as it is conducted behind screens and keyboards but millions are made based solely upon personalities of normal people, such is the power of likeability, even if the personality is largely successful through controversy they will still have a following based on a connection through common ground and the people that do not like them will follow them to feed into a common ground that will grow their social circle.
Relationships are reciprocal and when you become friends with people or establish a worth you will find that they will help you as much as they can, and when all it takes is a little consideration to your first meeting and how you appear to people in everyday interactions, it is a small price to pay , believe me whatever you are trying to achieve in life, communication while it may not always be the first key, will always make it easier.
I guess one of the biggest things I am trying to get across is, working situations to your advantage and exerting your will to further your position is not a sinister terrible thing, it is a tool that is used the world over and there is no reason why you shouldn’t utilise everything in your power to succeed, after all that is why we are all here isn’t it?
In September we are going to Dubai for what amounts to a long weekend, now, I have lost a considerable amount of bodyfat since starting and along the way my research has taught me a lot about how the body works and how if we work in tune with it and support it during the changes we want to make we can achieve some truly amazing things, there are some challenges coming up in my life over the next six to twelve months that will restrict any travel we may have done so I would like to go out with a bang so as to speak on this trip at the end of the year, the aim is to get as close to having visible Abs and good muscle tone and definition as possible before we depart.
As a way to share what is possible and also to keep me on the straight and narrow ( I have found that an audience no matter how small tends to do this ) I will be documenting my progress weekly until we go, starting today ( I have always traditionally weighed myself on a Sunday for some reason ) and for the following 12 weeks.
To achieve this I will be following my own routine that has been working for the past year with just a couple of minor tweaks as I have found that despite the internet message of “just go for it” practicalities have to be considered as well, and nearly falling asleep at work is not a good look, believe me!
So here is the program that I will be starting with initially.
Weight Training – every other day, this has always worked for me and I see no reason to change it, it is easily sustainable as I have no issue with training first thing in the morning or last thing at night, I know some people are precious about when they train but in today’s world unless you are a paid fitness star, a professional athlete or just happen to be a millionaire you have to fit training in around work, no point being muscular and sleeping on a park bench.
Yoga – on the opposite days to the Weight Training, this is to continue the work I did to get flexible and to improve my static strength, I find Yoga very productive and have continued to practice it sometimes just because of the mindset and distraction it provides from the chaos of the rat race.
Diet – This will not change from the low Carb high Protein and fibre diet I converted to all those months ago, save for adding in casein protein at night time to assist my protein synthesis as I am now marching on in years.
Coconut Oil – this seems to have worked wonders, I have been using it now first thing in the morning as my first intake of nutrition, remember that anecdotal research tended to suggest that this sets your body up to burn Fat for energy and provides focus, and I have been having the black coffee and Coconut Oil before going to the gym, I have noticed huge differences in focus, strength and endurance from following this.
5k a Day – this was the routine I started a few weeks ago and it has appeared to bear fruit, while away two weeks ago I put on 2lbs and this weigh in I have lost that and a further 4.8lbs this is good going in my book and probably right at the upper end of how much I want to lose a week, I certainly wouldn’t suggest that anybody try and lose more a week unless the medical benefits outweighed the possible drawbacks, I may however increase this to 7k as you need to adapt your exercise as the body becomes more capable.
And that really is it, any changes to the routine and I will outline why this has been done and what they are, and hopefully it will be “Abs for Dubai”
I haven’t done one of these for a while, I’m not sure why but as one is long overdue I thought I would sit down and justify why I say what I say and do what I do.
I have made significant progress with my physical goals and am marching on to where I need to start from, that may sound a little odd but hear me out, I have alluded in the past to having trained fairly seriously as a bodybuilder for some considerable amount of time, 4 years to be precise and then for whatever reason I let it all go and ended up the way I was just under a year ago, my goal back then was to be a competitive bodybuilder and it is something that I never even came close too as I gave up just around the time I should have been considering cutting up and entering my first show, so skin willing I have set a goal of completing a competition in a years time (by skin willing I mean that I am concerned I will be left with a lot of excess skin from the weight loss) so as my diet is working for my current goal it will be interesting to see how it has to change in order to achieve a different outcome, I am also going to tighten up my regime a little more as it has started to wander a bit of late.
When I started this blog it wasn’t just so much about just blogging my personal journey, although some of the response I have had to events in my life so far have been really nice and I am happy to keep updating day to day life, it was to start a resource that could be trusted and help people that really needed it with honest useful information as a sort of mitigant to the cynicism, bad advice and in a lot of cases bare faced con artists that continue to make a good life for themselves off the backs of others.
I have looked at many different ways of making money online and I have to tell you that nearly all have ended in the same tired global MLM schemes that will do nothing but push your money up to the top of the pyramid, and anybody at all that wants to challenge me with a get rich scheme and thinks I am talking rubbish please let me know as I will follow the plan to the letter in the hope that I am proved wrong, so I have settled on a few ideas one of which is trading online, this is a business model that has made people very very rich, but it needs to be treated with respect because it has made even more people very very poor,
I intend to learn from the best I can find how to do this and will document my findings along the way, hopefully we will all make some money.
But seriously my advice so far, find a way to benefit people and you will be rewarded, provide value to the lives of others and they will keep coming back, that is why I run adverts, so far I have made nothing but if this ever takes off I will do OK and still not have to charge anybody a cent for the privilege.
Other than that I just intend to keep on expanding the site and keep up with my new Instagram (rather predictably thetraineesuperhuman64 ) and hopefully build something useful.