Changing yourself is not always a bad thing.

Controversial I know but hear me out, changing yourself is not always a bad thing if who you have become is what is holding you back, and for the majority of us that is the case, working jobs we hate on a corporate hamster wheel or even worse dead end jobs that are only “filling in time until we decide what to do” the world has educated the masses to believe that we are meant to work we shouldn’t aim high and routinely we, as a group ridicule the ones who dare to dream.

Don’t Change for Others!

Well no, you shouldn’t change for the sake of others, if you are being yourself and people have an issue with that then that is their issue not yours, on a personal level you should never alter your standards or shelve your hopes and dreams for the sake of a relationship, relationships are supposed to be reciprocal and therefore tolerance and in most cases a certain prioritisation of the partners wants and needs should come first and the other way round too, this way both parties are happy and equally valued, and if you had one person in your corner all all the time helping you to achieve your goals imagine how far you would get, this is not the place to change, love and loyalty under a false banner of intention and desire will always end in tears, Always.

Change Everything Else, However

I posted previously a news article that frankly scared the hell out of me, I do not want to work until I die, penniless and without the ability to enjoy my winter years or to help me children achieve their potential in a world that is getting smaller and more cramped, but to make this happen life has to be treated like a business, with the advent of gamer “professionals” and vlog millionaires the bar and the goal has shifted, you are now the business, and unless you treat everyday as a means to an end you will go out of business and be closed down sooner than you think.

The concept of going to work 9 to 5 and making a decent living, retiring at 65 and living a comfortable life at the seaside with a golden retriever and enjoying long walks on the beach with the Mrs in the sunset happy just to have an ice cream isn’t dying it’s dead, it no longer happens, chances are that if that was how you lived your life then the Mrs left ages ago for a younger bloke who sells rubber dog poo with a nice cheery face on it through his etsy store, and vice versa, this may sound very male biased but to be fair women have been just as capable of making huge sums of money as men, are just as capable of putting in the hours as men and the only thing that historically stopped them from achieving the same positions was having to wade through an archaic “old boys club” culture in business and life in general, this is now largely giving way and quite rightly, so the above scenario cuts both ways.

The process begins by having a look at yourself and having the guts to ask “what am I doing wrong?” and with the opportunities on the internet and global reach the way it is today, if you are worried about money in any shape or form then you (like me and millions of others) are doing something wrong, good news is these things are not too hard to spot I have listed below the one’s I found.

  • Sleep late / wake up late – sounds obvious right? then why do we all do it? realise that if we sacrifice the binge watching of breaking bad now we can watch it in a penthouse overlooking the beach in the future, but for now Sleep because nobody functions properly when tired and irritable.
  • Don’t exercise – Easy to say, that you want to be a business person or you are too busy to exercise, cardio at the very least is a must, remember you as an organism run on oxygen, cardio will improve your cardio vascular system, so in a basic sense the fitter you are, the faster you are and it takes less time to complete tasks, that way you have more time to do more things.
  • Take chances – The easy path is the path of least resistance, yet we marvel at people who are flexible and have trained themselves to be able to practise yoga or gymnastics or even bodybuilders. stop to think when looking up to these people is that what you are admiring is somebody literally chose the path of most resistance, if you are pushing so much there is a little pain then you are doing good.
  • Listen – Real simple, if you knew everything then you would be rich already, listen to as many people as possible, most of what is said will be useless, but there is gold in them thar hills!
  • Keep Goals in mind – Stop being distracted by everything around you, TURN OFF SOCIAL MEDIA NOTIFICATIONS

If you are looking for something to do while staring at your phone, rather than the latest cat video, or yet another guru shouting at you that their way is best and you should give them thousands to see how, train your mind to be quicker and more agile, try Elevate in the links below (not affiliate links) I will even start a little traineesuperhuman group so we can play against each other.

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Now is not the time to start, now is the time to DO the clock has been ticking for some time already and we are literally fighting for our futures, so whatever it is you do, do it better, excel at your chosen field and always run a side hustle, no income is guaranteed that is true, but income that relies on the decisions out of your control needs a backup, because you never know when it is going to fail.

When Motivation is Not Enough

Summary

You have been shouted at by a stranger on YouTube and you have started a million and one get rich quick schemes and some get rich slow schemes, nothing is coming in and you are just spending more and more time online trying every different avenue you can to make something, anything work.

You are not alone, the online world from our prospective is split into two camps, the this is what you should do to make money and the this is how you should feel and act to make money, there is no this is how I do it camp, there is nobody who gives any prospective on how long these things should take or indeed how you actually start to make some, any cash at all, and before you start listing the hundreds of millionaires that have YouTube channels and that have catchy titles like “this is how I make $10000 a day from typing” or “watch me build a million dollar sales funnel” let me say this, I am talking about real substance on how you execute these promoted Frameworks, I put together a business idea in a post that can be found [here] where I outlined an online property business that could easily be global and you could do it from that fabled beach in the Bahamas that seems to be the very first trip these people make after making all their money, but here is the rub, the entire thing was useless, not worth a single penny because it has no Method of execution there is no information on how you complete the steps just simply the steps themselves and without that it is like having a Bentley with no tyres on the rims, it looks good but can’t go anywhere.

And it is at this point people fail, when you are sat there after you exhausted all your ideas and you have nothing left to give, it is 2 in the morning and you have to be up for work in 4 hours, but hang on isn’t this what you paid them for? isn’t this the advice that you are supposed to be receiving, well yes it is, so you have a cup of coffee and you remember Elon Musk saying that he worked 100 hours a week and all the influencers on Instagram with the positive little memes all the way up to the ones that simply stand there and tell you that you don’t work hard enough, and you trudge on just getting older, more skint and more and more disillusioned as you scroll through social media watching videos on how well everybody else is doing.

This is the point where motivation just isn’t enough, and this is also where you like others can start to fall into depression, and self -doubt, as somebody who has been there I can honestly say that this is difficult to get out of, almost impossible to live with and will ultimately effect everybody close enough to you to care.

Sounds Grim Right?

Well that’s because it is, I am not going to trawl through the internet to find statistics to dazzle you with the amount of research I did to back up my opinion because I don’t need to, the evidence of the state of society is all around us, it is in our schools, our workplaces and out in the streets, it follows us home and usually sits by the bed all night waiting to grab our attention even if we dare to wake up for a few minutes, I am talking, of course about the age of information technology, a lot of commentators blame Social Media solely for societies ill’s but this simply is not the case, it is the scale of information and demand for attention that is causing the confusion, and yes this encompasses social media, but it also extends to TV, Radio, Cinema, and even the lowly conversation, this is an On-Demand world and anything less just isn’t good enough, and anything other than instant results are also simply not good enough, so when we don’t realise all our dreams of financial success overnight, rather than go looking for the reasons or anecdotal evidence of how long it took the most successful to achieve their goals we look inwards and blame ourselves, we start to scroll looking for the inspiration that will drag us out of our unproductive trench and somehow propel us to the top the way it did so many others.

But this is because when you sit and stare at the screen for hours on end, or watch the latest “make money online video” you are only getting half the conversation, with no context at all, all the people we are taught to look up to have struggled to make their money, Richard Branson had several failed businesses and nearly lost Virgin a couple of times, Mark Zuckerburg wrote several unsuccessful applications including a music program he later gave to Microsoft for nothing, Grant Cardone came from very humble beginnings and if you watch enough videos you will soon realise that Gary Vaynerchuk had a far from ideal childhood, problem is they weren’t famous then, so there is cataloguing of Gary Vee drinking urine from a can because he was being bullied and the Christmas tree business Richard Branson had never made it to the front pages of any newspaper but they happened and created the inspirational characters you see and follow today.

One thing that unites them all now is calm, and I know that sounds odd but bear with me, I know they are not all calm in their approach to life, they scream and shout, book huge auditoriums and have lights, music and pyrotechnics but look at them closely, they are calm, their eyes are calm and no matter the volume of their words they are delivered with a calm certainty that resonates through every syllable, I guarantee they will not have sounded like that when they began, they sound like that now because they know it is a numbers game, it is clear thought and good decisions that make the millionaires of the future a vision and an unerring drive to get there, but it also a marathon and not a sprint, and marathons require planning and they require pacing or you will just be left behind, a sweating crying mass alone by the side of the road, defeated.

Your Recipe for Success

So right back to the beginning at 2am with work at 6am, the best thing you can do is stop what you are doing and protect your job, ask yourself this, when you are changing jobs, do you announce it to your boss that you are looking for alternative employment ? no, or at least I do not because we would fear that it would prejudice our position within the company we currently work for, so why let your venture destroy your security now? get some sleep and come back to it the next day, I guarantee that if you want to succeed it is going to be easier if you are as calm as possible, calm people make rational decisions, they consider the options and often times react very quickly as they have already formulated the course of action and do not need to adjust it once it is in play, “Think Slow, Act Fast”, there are two sides to every goal, the planning and the execution and this is where most of us fall down because we are still planning while we are executing, negating, in some circumstances any progress we might have made to the point of deviation.

Everything Must be in a straight line for efficiency

As crude as it is (and I promise I will work on my graphic skills) what I am trying represent is that if we start with an exponential amount of planning at the start, we can draw a straight reducing line toward the goal as over time we can decrease effort required as experience and skill increases, whereas if we are constantly in the planning stage the line is a lot more bumpy, there will be times where reaction to events is required to keep pushing a project forward and these are best represented by a triangle along the line, as the effort sharply increases in line with the goal but then once the solution is reached it quickly decreases, my point is to succeed you need to react to problems not lack of planning.

Meditate

One thing to do and an opinion that is shared by some of the most successful people on the planet is meditation, now you may think that mediation is sitting cross legged and humming to yourself in the Lotus Position, but I would rather you think of Meditation as something more personal, we all have different interests and likes/dislikes, we all have things that calm us and things that annoy us, for instance a very successful APP that helps people study is one that simply feeds the background sounds of a coffee shop the listener, thousands of people benefit everyday from the calming effect this app has on them, I however fell agitated by the background noise of a coffee shop, or any public establishment so for me that app would be a one way ticket to failure!, so pick something that Absorbs your thoughts something that takes you away from reality for a time to allow your mind to completely forget anything other than pleasure, it is easy to pick an activity to achieve this state, simply do something that makes you forget time, by which I mean anything that you do that usually you are so occupied by that time seems to slip away without you noticing, if that is sitting in the lotus position then great, if it is riding a dirt bike then also great, you looking to achieve a disconnect from effort, allowing your mind time to slow down and bathe in a huge release of endorphins, always remember though to set some kind of reminder about re-focusing on your goal and work because without that you could spend all day chilling out and that won’t get anything done!

Summary

So in summary, anything worth having takes work and a lot of it, but all the motivational speeches, inspirational stories and success shaming in the world is not going to help if that is not the problem, if the problem is overload and mental fatigue then that is what needs to be addressed, learn to recognise this and switch off YouTube or Instagram or wherever else you go to get your daily dose of persecution from virtual peers that likely are doing no better than you and relax, think slow and act fast, a ten minute rest will lead to a much more productive 30 minutes effort, till next time……..

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Education will save your money, time and health don’t be a sheep!

Well not everything, but all that is important to you, for instance if you are trying to get healthy do not simply look at the label or the physique of the model that is holding the item up on Instagram but rather dig deeper and actually research the supplement or diet change you are about to make, I say this because I have recently realised that the quantity of cod liver oil that I have been using is actually not high enough to provide the amount of EPA and DHA that is regarded as “Beneficial” this is because I like a lot of others just remember that somebody once said that Cod Liver oil was good for you, and I took the recommended dosage because I was to lazy to look any further, this is true of all things physical, medical, business and finance, dig deeper and actually reap the benefits of what you are doing, because if you don’ you are simply spending money and seeing no return.

So here is my example, studies have shown that Omega3 is responsible for the improvement of a lot of conditions to name a few

  • Depression and Anxiety
  • Cancer – although further study is needed it has been shown that consumption of Omega-3 fatty acids is linked to the reduction in incidences of, Breast Cancer, Prostate Cancer and Colon Cancer
  • Heart Disease – Some studies have recorded as high as 25% reduction in heart attacks with the correct dosage of Omega-3 high in EPA and DHA

And this is where my point comes in, you see the dosage for these kinds of benefits is around 250 to 500mg a day of combined EPA and DHA, and when looking at the back of my cod liver oil tablets I can see that the one a day that is the recommended dosage, is providing me a whole 80mg of EPA and 100mg of DHA, so nowhere near enough to help when looking for even the basic benefits of Omega-3 let alone the 850mg dosage that was used in the Cancer study, to compound matters there is even a question over the use of “Cod liver Oil” as opposed to “Fish Oil” again not taking the time to educate myself failed me there too, you see the reason that the supplement companies do not want you taking large dosages of Cod Liver oil is because it is high in Vitamin A and at certain levels this is toxic to the body and will as the levels get higher poison you, this can also be fatal so is best avoided really, before you start panicking however it should be noted that it is widely accepted that the danger point is somewhere around 10,000 I.U. and each Cod Liver Oil tablet I have in my tub provides 2,664 I.U. so one a day is fine but to get the required EPA and DHA intake would mean you were dangerously close to the upper limit as, ironically, the better your diet the more Vitamin A you take in naturally.

Fish Oil on the other hand is available with much larger quantities of the two important ingredients EPA and DHA and as it does not contain Vitamin A it is possible to take enough in to satisfy the requirement to start seeing the benefits of increasing your intake of these fatty acids.

I have made this switch to Fish Oil and upped the dosage to around the 600mg level and will bore you all with the findings in a week or two once I have started to see any changes as a result.

Now, that was quite a long winded explanation about Cod Liver Oil, and although it is informative and I hope it helps somebody make a choice between throwing their money away and actually getting some benefit from a product, it was not really the message I was looking to convey.

If you leave yourself in the dark that is all you will ever see, you will never make any real progress because you cannot make informed choices, a good example of this is, I have been hounded for a few weeks now by a crypto currency based investment company, I know what you are thinking here comes the sales pitch, but you are wrong I won’t even mention the name until they have proved to be a success or a failure, they have contacted me as they have a scheme whereby a team of professional traders send you recommendations every week and you can trade these recommendations with them on their platform and hopefully make some money, it sounds too good to be true right? well that is what I thought and I kept giving them the brush off until I actually thought what if ? what if it isn’t rubbish or a scam ? so I wrote down some questions regarding how they get paid and what risk if any they take and I waited for the phone call, after asking my questions and checking the answers against their website and common sense I actually decided to give them a try, because it sounded plausible enough and I could see the benefit to them of me trading their platform and making money, now it could easily turn out to be a scam but I was able to make an informed decision based on my instincts because I asked the questions I wanted to ask and got the answers.

And that is really what holds a lot of us back, not being able to make a decision because we lack a certainty level where we are comfortable and the reason we lack that level is because we don’t educate ourselves on the prospect in front of us.

Hopefully some of that at least has made sense and I will keep you posted on both the EPA DHA debacle and the crypto currency traders, so if the next post is just a string of sad face emojis I have either gone made through too much Fish Oil or lost all my money, till next time…….

Still Scraping Around? This Could be Why

So you are working 9 to 5 and you are coming in and spending time with the laptop trying desperately to break the endless cycle of work and struggle, but you, like countless others are still are banging your head against a wall that you cannot see, I know because I have been there and for that matter still am.

In an earlier post I shared the revelation that in order to make money you need money, this is not a huge revelation and I am not trying to get more likes simply by repeating it, rather it need repeating because it is true, you see there is a single global truth about success, if you understand something then you will be successful at it, it is really that easy, sure the occasional person may get lucky and just hit upon a winning idea, but these are quickly surpassed by others who study the early success and formulate a repeatable formula to not only re-create the success but to grow on it and leave the “lucky” ones in the dust.

If you spend enough time searching for making money online, you will find that you literally cannot watch a YouTube video or go onto a website without and AD being run by some desperate entrepreneur trying to hook you into the latest system with this weeks free seminar, here’s the kicker, it’s shit, all of it, and it is wasting your time and mine, they haven’t got the answer which is why they are pushing the same “online live webinars” as everybody else and promising the earth with that identical desperate look in their eye.

but still for the majority of us we have a look and then 2hrs later we realise the whole thing is the same pointless pitch with the upsell at the end for several thousand dollars in some cases and mere hundreds in others, but what I will ask is what if? what if you took that thousand dollars and paid off some of your credit cards, the reduced balance would mean more money in your account each month and more money in your account means more money to pay off debt, it is a vocabulary thing, really it is, when we hear people like Robert Kyosaki talking about using debt to make money he is talking about hundreds of thousands of dollars of mortgage debt paying him a huge dividend at the end of each month as the difference is calculated between the repayments and the rental income.

But for us the hundreds of pounds/dollars each month on repayments that in the main are just paying off the interest is what is keeping us poor and it will never be any different.

Somebody once asked Warren Buffet why if his system worked so well that not everybody followed it, his reply was simple “because nobody wants to get rich slow” and he is right, because every time we turn on the laptop we are bombarded with these jerks selling us exactly that, and it does not exist but taking a long time is not as long as you might think, even on a modest wage if you removed all the outgoings to credit, and I mean Credit Cards, Auto Finance, that huge 50 inch TV pulling your chimney breast down and those 10 days in the sun your boss graciously lets you have once a year, you would soon have enough money to start investing in a way, it may not be the largest way, but a way.

So you need to stop listening to the $200 a day from Google shit, or the $500 dollars a week from simply typing, because it is literally that, your viewing time and clicks are just feeding people as skint as you as they try desperately to find a way to get a video to go viral, or hook enough people into their upsell, stop doing it, instead learn from experts in their field, spend time watching videos on investing, or property development, seek out millionaires or billionaires doing exactly that look for educational development so that when you have the money to invest you understand what it is you are investing in and don’t lose all that hard work, unfollow dreamers and scammers, bloody dropshipping courses that stopped being profitable years ago because now everybody has a shopify store, and nobody wants to wait 6 weeks for delivery from China on a sub-standard product, don’t go down the affiliate route and start picking items to promote on Clickbank, learn a skill and write an ebook and get affiliate marketers to sell it for you on Clickbank, think about it what makes more sense, weeks and weeks competing with people to sell one lousy product and earn a tenner, or write an ebook or course about something you know and get an army of hungry affiliates to sell it for you ?

You, like me owe yourself at least this much, stop trawling through Instagram for inspiration, if you have been there once then you have inspiration enough, stop looking on YouTube for another business idea because the one you tried was either useless or didn’t work in a week so you gave up, literally turn 6 months of your life over to hardship and struggle to put yourself in a stronger financial position and a better mental state with a more thorough understanding of your chosen path, and then hit the internet with your ideas, get affiliates selling your courses, or make your millions investing with your patterns or your system the world is big enough for us all to make fortunes, but sometimes you have stop running in the dark, leaping from idea to idea and pushing other peoples ideas and property, and realise in the world of affiliate marketing the only ones truly getting rich are the content creators.

As always please leave a comment if you have one and I hope that you have every success with whatever path you take, till next time…….

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This is What Your Overactive Brain Needs to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

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During all the activities we undertake to increase physical well being, financial gain or simply to educate ourselves further the one thing we need on our side is cognitive function, sleep is by a long way the most important aspect of this.

Now one thing that does annoy me and I assume annoys or at best confuses others is the sheer dichotomy of advice that is given, we have people shouting that the only way to get ahead is to stay up and work 20hrs a day and people shouting that you need 7 to 8hrs sleep a night, well the maths just doesn’t work, the good thing about this article is that it goes into ways you can improve the quality of your sleep, this really is the only way we can satisfy the best happy medium of the two messages, so enjoy and I hope that it helps at least a little bit.

You dont always have to increase your output if you can make it so much more effective, and improving your ability to solve problems and be creative will definitely improve your chances of success.

Till next time……

End of the Affiliate Journey – For now at least

Possibly not the update that anybody was expecting, but life has a funny way of telling you things, small signs here and there that the direction you are taking is not the best path, I have spent some considerable time now with the Affiliate Marketing and the initial idea, which was to use paid for Facebook ads to promote a product and use Clickbank to get paid for doing so.

Things to consider when starting

  1. This is not going to be for free, Websites, YouTube videos and Guru’s sometimes try to push this message and it is fundamentally wrong, this business requires just one ingredient Traffic and this traffic needs to have some value, as in it needs to be directed, simply throwing 1000 unqualified leads at a landing page is highly unlikely to get any result, and traffic costs my friend, either in your time to build up a following on social media or in cash to by advertisements.
  2. The second thing is really an extension of the first point and was ultimately my undoing at this time, you will still need Time and quite a measurable amount too, think about it, you have to create landing pages, creatives and static ads (these can be done for free) and then place them and monitor the spending, as a side note you will notice that the majority of the success stories start with the phrase “I lost my Job” or “when I was eighteen” or some such other narrative that when you scratch beneath the surface implies that they started with a lot of time on their hands.
  3. Nearly all of the videos on YouTube are only half of the story, and in fact I would say it’s not even half more like one quarter, I promise that the curse of the blank page is nothing compared to staring at a video ad looping over and over and not knowing how to make it feel right and professional, and hiring somebody to do it is more money.

One of the conclusions I came to was this, the vast majority of the affiliate programs are centred around selling more affiliate training programs, I actually have a moral issue with this as it adds no value to peoples lives, These are nothing more than pyramid schemes in my opinion and ultimately although they can make money for some they do not for the vast majority of people involved.

I am not saying that affiliate programs are not viable in any way, I have links on this website to books that if anybody bought through me I would receive money, it would not make me rich but it would be earned simply as a by-product of something I enjoy doing, and as the reach of the website increases the scope for more people to see the links and click them also increases, this provides potential return on one time effort, and this is probably as close to Passive Income as it is possible to get.

Summary

In summary I feel it only right to say that the path to affiliate marketing that I started to take is best described as cynical, it would have worked with a larger budget and a smaller moral stance, quick money can be made this is true, but quick money is Small money, along the way I have spent time listening to giants of business and investing and a lot of their words have rung true with me, I understand the need for a side hustle if you have a day job as this is the only way to start on the road to financial freedom as all too often we start looking for money when we have grown out of our current income, and I also understand and would happily advise anybody that has the time and the freedom to dedicate every waking moment to affiliate marketing should do so, success stories are not always a tissue of lies to extract your hard earned money, a good amount of the time they are true and a reflection of what that person managed to achieve with their particular circumstances, just remember that their circumstances are NOT yours and you need to evaluate carefully what you can sacrifice in order to reach your goal, I am going to move toward the side hustle and will happily share any successes I have with you all on here, as well as getting on with the other side of the traineesuperhuman, the fitness and life motivation.

Till next time, run as fast as you can but make sure you have the right road!

Affiliate Marketing Guru – And Skint!

Only a quick update tonight, I have spent the last couple of days chasing down YouTube videos and reading blogs from some of the biggest names in affiliate marketing, and I have to say that I am far from impressed with what I see, there are some who say that affiliate marketing is dead and that it is almost impossible to make money from it these days, and there are some that say it isn’t, it is simply the effort that you put in that determines your outcome, and there are still more that quote affiliate businesses that make exceptional amounts of money 24hrs a day 7 days a week.

I, for the most part am a busy man, and when I am not busy I, like others am sleeping, my work takes up the vast majority of my time during the day and when I get home or finish for the day if I am working from home, I like to spend as much time as possible with my family, once the children are in bed I then return to the computer or go to the gym depending on which day it is, so if I am going to invest time in something, let alone money it has to be at least logical, and while I am happy to lose money while learning something it is important that there is the hint that the leap of faith is worthwhile.

This is where the problem comes in, and to demonstrate I will re-cap something I have said before, the gurus all seem to be selling the same thing, and as long as you can work out that you need to pull your pants down before sitting down on the toilet, you could work it out yourself and in the meantime save literally thousands of dollars (which is what this all works in) .

The Formula

  1. Sign up for an affiliate program
  2. Get social media accounts
  3. Find something to sell
  4. Create adverts or self promote through videos
  5. Sell your products

Oh and I forgot the most important part of this, go on to do this sat on a beach in the Bahamas.

My point is this, if you have 1.2million followers on Instagram or YouTube or indeed on WordPress, you Don’t need to find affiliate programs because you will have every company in the world that sells something to do with whatever you have done to get that audience kissing your ass, and probably a few companies that have nothing to do with what you do.

So what if you don’t have a million followers ? well you Pay for adverts and this is another point that I don’t think could ever be classed as a eureka moment, I mean do we really need to spend $1299 to be told to find a paid advertising solution ? hell no and if you have got that much money knocking about it would be better spent on a holiday to get over how skint you are (broke) or better still giving it to the one place that can help you sell stuff, number 4 on their 5 step plan…… wait for it………. Facebook or Instagram or YouTube, disappointed ? yeah thought so.

The more cynical people amongst us will start to wonder which came first the affiliate marketer or the guru ?

I have had two affiliate links on this Blog since pretty much when it began, for two books that I have read and they have received zero clicks, not a single one, why because the internet is a numbers game and the people that control the numbers control the money, I have 120 followers and so of that maybe only 10 percent will check out what I write and probably only 10 percent of them will look around and now I have run out of 10 percents, you get my point?

Summary

I am not saying that affiliate marketing is dead, or that you can’t make money from it, I intend to keep looking at it and I have found plenty of places that you can make videos to upload to YouTube and quite a bit about YouTube and Facebook ads, Instagram is still a bit of a mystery to me but I will look at it, no, my point is this, back in the old days of the Gold Rush, many people came to prospect and most lived their whole life to find Gold, ultimately dying alone and hot under the desert sun without a penny to their name, and some turned up went out in the afternoon struck gold and went back to their families millionaires or more, but each and every one of them had to buy picks and shovels, this blog and the reason for this slightly down beat post is simply this, I think it is the right of everyone to live their life happy and free from pain, if that means that you only want enough money to get by or you want to be a billionaire then so be it, it is in the power of everybody here to achieve wealth and happiness just like they can achieve physical fitness, and I have no issue with paying for knowledge, after all if it is true knowledge then it is worth every penny, but life is too short to be dragged in and rinsed by people, which given half a chance they will.

The gurus you see are almost all millionaires, and the ones that claim they are while sat in a bedroom, with bad audio and grainy webcam are just laughable, but you can’t get rich ripping people off with their image because they have already done it, however the fact that they keep going means that there is enough new people coming onto the net to support us all.

Takeaway

Perhaps we should all sell picks and shovels ? disagree with me or are you making loads of money online ? I would love to be proved wrong please comment below.

Wednesday – Half way there or half way back?

So we are half way through the week and how have you done? have you sat on everything that you said you were going to do and it is still there waiting to be picked up?

Humans suffer with what I call drift, in my industry we have an issue with logging, devices log events and issues and the logs have a timestamp on them, this then allows us to go to the log collector and search for events around a certain time to see if we can work out what device may or may not have failed, problem is that you can have 10 switches or 6 routers all made by the same manufacturer and all identical with the same chips as their stablemates, and unless you synchronise the clocks with a central source, in this example an NTP server, the times will drift, and when this happens it makes it much harder to work out when an event actually happened and if there is anything significant in the logs.

In human terms this is best summed up by saying that, when we have an idea or we formulate a plan, we need to see the end result to get truly excited about it, in fact when you attend seminars and watch motivational videos this is literally what we are told to do, I am sure I have said this before and I will bang on about it in the future, think back to the last lottery ticket you bought, I would be prepared to bet that you had the money spent before you even got home, but then you have to wait and waiting is boring right? damn straight it is, and what happens when we get bored, we become disinterested we start to look for things to entertain us, and we move on, in 2012 “The Telegraph” a newspaper in the UK reported that more than £1.4 Billion of lottery prize money had gone unclaimed in the 18 years since the competition began, because in the short time between buying the ticket and the draw, the owners of the tickets had misplaced them of forgot to check and the ticket had been thrown out or put through the washer, the world has taught us to demand instant gratification and anything less it would seem is to boring to contemplate.

So we start with our idea, our plan and we run at it, we start watching YouTube videos about what we are going to do or if it is sorting out our lives we start making phone calls and talking to the people we need to solve our problems, then guess what ? Nothing happens, maybe a few quick wins, a debt cleared here or an account opened at Amazon associates, but other than that it all stops as the next part of any dream starts, the hard work for absolutely no return, and it stings, and it hurts and you get all upset and start whining to the Mrs or Mr, ultimately you stop, because it’s been a week and you are still not a millionaire, or you are still drowning in debt.

Sounds like I have an idea what I am on about? that’s because I do, even this blog I am writing now had this particular logic applied to it, I was really excited about starting and got it setup, tried a few different things and earned 18 cents so far ! where is my Corvette, my Mustang and that really cool house in the hills ? still very much in the showroom and the estate agents window that’s where.

I left it behind for a bit and got out of the habit of writing, then got out of the habit of thinking about writing and ultimately instead of sitting down and building the blog, I just had a Chicken breast or can of Tuna and sat in front of the TV doing absolutely sod all about my future, and I have only been doing this for around 4 months! then I watched a video and it triggered me (mostly by anger and jealously) and I wrote again, this time with a little more vigour and with a little bit more of my personality coming through.

If I had started my Blog and WordPress had sent me a Corvette and the keys to the house as part of the welcome package instead of a blank page and a credit card bill I would have been all over it because my dreams and my goals were realised, at that point I am not trying to change my life, my life has changed, and the time to build has been bypassed, I am no longer bored I am fulfilled.

You have to halt the drift, regardless of what you do to make this happen for you it is going to take time, and you are going to have many many frustrations along the way, but if you are completely honest with yourself about what your goals are when you get there it will be like heaven and it will be better than you ever imagined, and I don’t mean you have to shoot for billionaire status, or owning skyscrapers, if your dream is financial independence and freedom, you will know when you get there and you finally hand your notice in at work, if your dream is simply to get in shape and be able to run around with your kids at the park, the effort and the sweating and nearly passing out in the gym will not even be a memory when you see the smile and hear the laughter from your children as you play in the park.

Own your Dream, fix it in your mind and if need be tell me your dream and I will send you reminders every week or month or day if you need it just to keep it fixed there, because if you are focused and if you truly believe you will make it and you do not forget why you are doing what you are doing you will make it, if you forget to chase your dreams they will fade and you will stay exactly as you are now, keep enthusiasm and enjoy the journey.

Time to Build Tuesday

Tuesday today and I wonder how did your Monday go? did you get up and recite a mantra about how you can succeed or did you go for a swim around your private island followed by a nutritional breakfast?

I ask these questions because I was watching a video about morning rituals last night and it got me thinking, when we watch self-help videos or we search for ways to change our lives we are essentially looking for help, help to understand what we are doing wrong, why we are not millionaires, and how can we change this, and YouTube and Instagram come to the rescue, but only some of the content of these messages is worthwhile, not because the content producer is malicious but simply because they have risen to a point that they can no longer relate to the issues and problems when they started out.

One of the points that was made was with regard to Barack Obama’s morning routine, and how he always does a 45 minute workout, he will, reportedly not entertain anything until this is played out and this makes him a better president (this was at the time he was president of course) the point was that no matter how busy our lives are we are not as busy as the president of the united states, however I take issue with this because time is a constant regardless of who you are or how much money you have, to say that one person has less time than another due to their status is wrong we all have 24hrs in a day, so if you need to take care of two children or take the dog for a walk this takes your time, and does not allow you to lay down and enjoy a coffee enema.

This is only a quick post but I want you to think of this, when you look at these things understand that you do not need to follow the advice to the letter, and as I want to make money from advertising on my blog and my blog is about helping people, there is at least one person out there that is rooting for you, me!

So if yesterday you meant to start the week all positive and go out for a run before eating half a grapefruit and swallowing a handful of herbal medication, then setting off to work with a smile on your face, but when you got up the Kids weren’t feeling well, the dog had shat in the kitchen and you ended up running late eating toast as usual and driving to work wondering if you left the iron on, don’t throw away the rest of the week, today is Tuesday, if your Monday sucked ass, try again today, you can do that can’t you ?

6 Skills Essential for Communication and progression.

Unless you want to live under a rock in a forgotten place as the only human inhabitant at some point or another you are going to have to communicate with others, the need to communicate is as old as civilisation itself and many many books have been written on the topic, I personally am quite a shy person, I have had a lot of hang ups about my ability at work my physical appearance and my ability to communicate with others in both personal and professional capacities.

The written word seems far easier to control and deliver and is powerful, hugely powerful in fact wars have been started and stopped through the written word and societies changed by adherence to the written rule of law, but behind this and in every case there is people, people to think and then vocalise the thoughts and ideals that we then document to disseminate among the population, through history there have been many documented cases of one person mobilising entire countries through their personality and ability to communicate.

This is not some kind of black magic, and you do not need to rely on hypnotising people to bend them to your will, you simply need to know how to communicate effectively and be likeable, when was the last time you went out of your way for somebody you did not like? we are more likely to put ourselves out or assist complete strangers than somebody who we have actively taken a dislike to.

And the same works in reverse, you are unlikely to be helped up the corporate ladder by somebody that has not “taken to you” and garnering assistance from somebody you do not gel with is almost impossible.

But talking to people is daunting, it can be almost debilitating especially for the first time as the rules of engagement haven’t been set yet, you do not know what type of person you are dealing with, what they think, feel, desire or what they will find funny or insulting, as a demonstration of this I have one friend who considers swearing to be the height of rudeness, as I am sure some of you will, and one that we regularly insult each other with some eye-watering expletives as a matter of course, it is simply the way we communicate, and I have a good relationship with both and have worked very successfully along side them with no trouble at all, simply because I took the time to understand what type of person they were and adjust how I converse with them accordingly, so I have compiled a list of some of the more core rules of communication because it is difficult to make it through life without it and almost impossible to succeed financially or socially without giving consideration to how you communicate with others.

  1. Smile, A very simple first step is to smile, a smile puts people at ease especially in first meetings because it at least shows you are happy to be in their company or pleased to meet them at least, when I say smile I do not mean a great big wide grin that looks as though you are about to burst into laughter, the best thing to do is to actively think of something pleasant, a situation or a person that naturally makes you happy, as smiling is largely an involuntary response the reaction will be natural and not look forced very important as you do not want their first thought to be that you are false!
  2. Eye Contact, Often explained away to easily this one and it is really difficult to get right if you are trying to force it, the tendency is to stare at someone intently after being told to maintain eye contact, but this is just intimidating at worst and if you are dealing with a tower of confidence in the other person they will most likely just find it annoying and it could easily turn into a staring contest, again not a good first impression, the best rule of thumb is to concentrate on what the person is saying and get eye contact for around 50 to 60 percent of the conversation, this is engaging but not confrontational.
  3. Consider the situation, Often overlooked is to consider what kind of meeting this is, and adjust accordingly, for instance in a job interview the interviewer is in a position of power (if you really want the job that is) and you are looking to impress but not dominate, so you would maintain eye-contact at crucial times, when giving answers to questions for instance (looking away when answering tends to suggest that you are searching for the answer) but not overdo it during the more general moments of the interview, if however you are in a position of power and you need to assert authority you would lower your tone and fix the person in your gaze for more of the conversation, this is an instructional position.
  4. Do not shout, Unless you need to shout because of environmental considerations try not to, shouting is largely the loss of control and unless delivered at exactly the right time tends to erode any authority as you are no longer calm and level headed, a lower quieter tone delivered exactly and firmly making sure not to trail off at the end of words is far more authoritative and will get your message across without annoying the other person, when we get annoyed we stop listening, it is a fact, I am sure that you do the same.
  5. Dress for success Well actually just dress for the situation you are going to be in, if you are wanting to be taken seriously in the business world, and you are in a traditional type office setting then turning up in trainers jeans and a T-shirt is really only any good for the monthly office picnic, whereas if you are in a more modern setting a three piece suit is probably not going to help you integrate with the environment, to put it in extreme terms don’t expect to be taken seriously at the annual dentists networking convention dressed as Ronald McDonald!
  6. Try and find Common Ground, Humans are by and large pack animals, we feel most comfortable among people with the same interests and aspirations, by looking for traits in people that you can relate to you can ease most situations and create an environment that is mostly devoid of the deadly silence that exists between people that have no idea what to say to each other, the weather only lasts so long as a conversation but a shared interest in a sport or reading or pogo’ing can last a lifetime of water cooler talk and will most likely create a friendship even if it is at a very low colleague level.

Being socially awkward is not a bad trait and it is not something that you have to change regardless of your need to or not, it is however going to hold you back if you want to make a progression in the business or family life or any social interaction, the world is becoming an increasingly social place, it is a sort of pseudo social to be fair, as it is conducted behind screens and keyboards but millions are made based solely upon personalities of normal people, such is the power of likeability, even if the personality is largely successful through controversy they will still have a following based on a connection through common ground and the people that do not like them will follow them to feed into a common ground that will grow their social circle.

Relationships are reciprocal and when you become friends with people or establish a worth you will find that they will help you as much as they can, and when all it takes is a little consideration to your first meeting and how you appear to people in everyday interactions, it is a small price to pay , believe me whatever you are trying to achieve in life, communication while it may not always be the first key, will always make it easier.

I guess one of the biggest things I am trying to get across is, working situations to your advantage and exerting your will to further your position is not a sinister terrible thing, it is a tool that is used the world over and there is no reason why you shouldn’t utilise everything in your power to succeed, after all that is why we are all here isn’t it?