If You Don't Believe in You – how do you expect anybody else to?

Have you ever met somebody who is just so confident that they light up the room? people listen to what they have to say and try to do what they can to please that person ?

That is self-belief in action, These days with political correctness and everybody being offended by everything they can find so they can go and complain about it on social media hoping to get the next viral post that we have all stopped thinking about how we treat ourselves.

The inner voices are just as destructive as the external pressures on us, and we cannot “log out” of these, rather they come to us in the dead of the night and stop us sleeping, if we manage to drift of they haunt us in our dreams.

Their is no difference between you and the confident person who manages to bend society to their will, other than they believe and trust in themselves, every action and effort comes from a belief that they are able to do whatever task it is, from learning a new skill to influencing a room of investors.

What I want you to do

This morning, evening or night, just start to believe in yourself, always reinforce your belief in your mind, body and soul, repeat it like a mantra every time you feel unsure or unable to do something, remember failure is almost never because you cannot, it is simply that you have tried for the first time, you will find that as soon as you start believing people around you will change and you will fall over themselves to help you achieve your goals.

Stop watching Porn – and other distractions.

The world is a distracting place that is a fact, and this is not a new thing, historically it has been this way since one person wanted to sell something to another, the only way to do this was through advertising, and so we have moved through many years of experimentation with newspapers and bill boards, radio and TV, and now the internet and tracking algorithms.

This really isn’t an attack on the porn industry (or any other for that matter) mainstream porn i.e. involving consensual adults has it’s place in societies fabric just like any other form of entertainment, but it is the way in which it and other distractions that are targeted that is the issue to the aspiring entrepreneur or student, as these adverts or “Calls to action” are almost almost unavoidable.

Size of the problem.

OK so to continue down the rabbit hole of Porn, the most famous site (no need to name check I feel) had in 2019 115 million visitors a week, as opposed to Udemy, which reported that in 2019 it’s student registration rose to the heady heights of 30 million, an impressive number but vastly skewed, the fact is that humans on the whole have always chosen the path of least resistance, it is in our DNA, this way we tended to live longer and to be able to thrive when opportunity presented itself and survive during times of hardship as we had energy in reserve, so we will look for an easy way to get the reward hormone dopamine, and when we are looking for ways to get this without having to do much more than a couple of mouse clicks it is there in abundance, and not just the Adult variety, when was the last time you found yourself in YouTube spiral where it just kept suggesting new videos and before you knew it you had spent an hour watching stuff 90% of which you hadn’t even asked for?

Why this is bad.

To illustrate this ironically we just need to look at the people we envy the most and how this is changing as we go further into the machine, not so long ago our people envy was the confine of rock and film stars, merchant bankers and the elite business people such as Richard Branson and Elon Musk, but as times change we are looking in other places and the distractions from the day to day tedium are becoming the single source of dopamine, YouTube, Instagram, Snapchat, Messaging, online video, bloggers, vloggers, and tutorials, and that is not to mention all the get rich using my system folks, all these distractions simply make money for the people that have figured out the system, they have embraced the new world and are using it to make their corner comfy at the expense of the masses.

So what do I suggest ?

After all I am trying to make my bit of the world cosier by writing this blog and putting advertising on it aren’t ?, well yes I am and no doubt the vast majority or people reading this will have their own blogs and other social media, that they are trying to make money from all chasing the dream of the “laptop lifestyle” we hear so much about, and this is fine I am not suggesting that we stop doing or searching for what we like to see, hear or read on the internet, my point is that of paramount importance is the time we spend being productive against the time we spend kicking back congratulating ourselves on being masters of our own destiny while following an algorithm designed to draw you in through adverts or video interests or even music, there are a host of applications out there to help remove the distractions and the advertisements from browser based ad removers to running a raspberry pi on your network with something like pi-hole running on it, that blocks ads and uses blacklists to help protect against surfing to malicious websites, but really the best defence is to be mindful, try and complete any tasks that are going to improve your life or forward your business, blog, vlog or online company before sitting down and allowing the internet to suck you in and take hours of your time.

Conclusion

Time is finite thing and I personally have wasted so much of it that it is almost criminal, stop being distracted and look at everything in terms of cost, how much time will this cost me and for what reward ?

if the time is equal to or less than the reward it is a good thing if not then, it should be regarded as a leisure activity and done after work has been completed, the rush of dopamine you will get from financial independence and abundance, will last for a lifetime and far outweigh the hour or so pleasure following the internet as it twists and turns our minds and wallets wringing out as much profit as it can.