Stop watching Porn – and other distractions.

The world is a distracting place that is a fact, and this is not a new thing, historically it has been this way since one person wanted to sell something to another, the only way to do this was through advertising, and so we have moved through many years of experimentation with newspapers and bill boards, radio and TV, and now the internet and tracking algorithms.

This really isn’t an attack on the porn industry (or any other for that matter) mainstream porn i.e. involving consensual adults has it’s place in societies fabric just like any other form of entertainment, but it is the way in which it and other distractions that are targeted that is the issue to the aspiring entrepreneur or student, as these adverts or “Calls to action” are almost almost unavoidable.

Size of the problem.

OK so to continue down the rabbit hole of Porn, the most famous site (no need to name check I feel) had in 2019 115 million visitors a week, as opposed to Udemy, which reported that in 2019 it’s student registration rose to the heady heights of 30 million, an impressive number but vastly skewed, the fact is that humans on the whole have always chosen the path of least resistance, it is in our DNA, this way we tended to live longer and to be able to thrive when opportunity presented itself and survive during times of hardship as we had energy in reserve, so we will look for an easy way to get the reward hormone dopamine, and when we are looking for ways to get this without having to do much more than a couple of mouse clicks it is there in abundance, and not just the Adult variety, when was the last time you found yourself in YouTube spiral where it just kept suggesting new videos and before you knew it you had spent an hour watching stuff 90% of which you hadn’t even asked for?

Why this is bad.

To illustrate this ironically we just need to look at the people we envy the most and how this is changing as we go further into the machine, not so long ago our people envy was the confine of rock and film stars, merchant bankers and the elite business people such as Richard Branson and Elon Musk, but as times change we are looking in other places and the distractions from the day to day tedium are becoming the single source of dopamine, YouTube, Instagram, Snapchat, Messaging, online video, bloggers, vloggers, and tutorials, and that is not to mention all the get rich using my system folks, all these distractions simply make money for the people that have figured out the system, they have embraced the new world and are using it to make their corner comfy at the expense of the masses.

So what do I suggest ?

After all I am trying to make my bit of the world cosier by writing this blog and putting advertising on it aren’t ?, well yes I am and no doubt the vast majority or people reading this will have their own blogs and other social media, that they are trying to make money from all chasing the dream of the “laptop lifestyle” we hear so much about, and this is fine I am not suggesting that we stop doing or searching for what we like to see, hear or read on the internet, my point is that of paramount importance is the time we spend being productive against the time we spend kicking back congratulating ourselves on being masters of our own destiny while following an algorithm designed to draw you in through adverts or video interests or even music, there are a host of applications out there to help remove the distractions and the advertisements from browser based ad removers to running a raspberry pi on your network with something like pi-hole running on it, that blocks ads and uses blacklists to help protect against surfing to malicious websites, but really the best defence is to be mindful, try and complete any tasks that are going to improve your life or forward your business, blog, vlog or online company before sitting down and allowing the internet to suck you in and take hours of your time.

Conclusion

Time is finite thing and I personally have wasted so much of it that it is almost criminal, stop being distracted and look at everything in terms of cost, how much time will this cost me and for what reward ?

if the time is equal to or less than the reward it is a good thing if not then, it should be regarded as a leisure activity and done after work has been completed, the rush of dopamine you will get from financial independence and abundance, will last for a lifetime and far outweigh the hour or so pleasure following the internet as it twists and turns our minds and wallets wringing out as much profit as it can.

This is What Your Overactive Brain Needs to Get a Good Night’s Sleep

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During all the activities we undertake to increase physical well being, financial gain or simply to educate ourselves further the one thing we need on our side is cognitive function, sleep is by a long way the most important aspect of this.

Now one thing that does annoy me and I assume annoys or at best confuses others is the sheer dichotomy of advice that is given, we have people shouting that the only way to get ahead is to stay up and work 20hrs a day and people shouting that you need 7 to 8hrs sleep a night, well the maths just doesn’t work, the good thing about this article is that it goes into ways you can improve the quality of your sleep, this really is the only way we can satisfy the best happy medium of the two messages, so enjoy and I hope that it helps at least a little bit.

You dont always have to increase your output if you can make it so much more effective, and improving your ability to solve problems and be creative will definitely improve your chances of success.

Till next time……

What would you do?

So far, with the assistance of my family I have actually achieved more in the last 11 months than I have in 43 years on this planet (with the exception of my Wife and Children) and, in contrast to sitting back and congratulating myself it has just given me more drive, I was thinking about this last night and asked myself some questions that I think we could all do with asking ourselves and answering honestly.

Questions ?

  1. What if we could release the full power of the mind – There are many people that believe in the power of the mind and there are many more that exhibit extraordinary ability in many different ways.
  2. What is holding us back from doing the above – Are we really just to scared to try, is it just lack of effort or is there more to it ?
  3. Do I really do enough each day to get to me goals – effort is something only we can feel, it is true that we can show outward sign of effort when there is none just as opposite is true and people looking in can not see the effort we are exerting, there is a saying in Yoga “Storm within calm without” and some people live their lives this way.
  4. And what would you do if you suddenly found yourself at your end goal?

So far I have begun a turnaround in my life and have noticed a difference in my children my wife and generally the people around me, I had a fascination with becoming the best I could be and helping others to do the same thing, that fascination has become something more, a tangible emotion.

When I was younger I was really into mountain biking, trail riding mainly and I became fairly good at it, I would spend entire days riding out across fields and through woods, at a fair pace too, obviously I do not need to explain how it went when I sat back on my bike at 25 and a half stone, the back tire went flat and I was out of breath after about a minute of pedalling, but yesterday I went out on it for the first time in a couple of months, and I had that feeling that children get when they do something for the first time, that surprise and elation that whatever it was just worked, my pace was back up into the 11 – 13mph range and my only concern as far as distance was concerned was the fact that for the vast majority of the ride I was lost!

I have been working on a system of meditative thought that I call “driving through the brain” using the power of the mind to influence the body rather than using the body to influence the mind and the results have been very positive and I will share this as we go on of course.

You know you are lost when the plan is to follow the train tracks because they must lead somewhere!

Hope none of this sounds to weird and that you stick with me as I start to push even harder toward my goals, and with any luck inspire and assist anybody who decides to come along to achieve theirs too!

Feeling Strong ?

Self-help and motivation has become very dear to my heart in recent years and I personally find it comforting that there a lot of people out there that do genuinely want to help, from the big names that fill auditoriums to the YouTube warriors that post incessantly, some with good intentions and morals and some with questionable motives largely found reciting industry standard rhetoric to a backdrop of a couple of piles of cash and some royalty free inspirational music, no names are required as we all have experienced these differing styles and their respective protagonists I imagine many times over.

Something happened to me specifically today, I had a moment of fear, a moment when the slow pace of progress closes round you like a cold encompassing blanket and seems to choke the energy right out of you, where all the carefully thought out plans and schemes suddenly seem unobtainable and you freeze unable to see a way forward.

Fear hits us all, I don’t care who or where you are, male or female, young or old, it is how we deal with it that counts and it is how we deal with it that will determine the pace at which you achieve your goals and in some cases if you ever do.

I have read a couple of books that are starting to suggest that we should maybe try and look for the good in what we have and not try to attain anything more, while this leaves me conflicted I do think it is a flawed and potentially harmful message, I mean people look to these places and people for inspiration and motivation, only to be told to not try to hard and look at the prospect of just being content with what you have, it must be a huge disappointment and for some difficult to recover from.

So here is a little mid-week motivation and each word is not only from my heart but it is fresh in my mind as I have gone through those emotions just today.

Feel strong, don’t question it just feel it look out into the open and just feel strong, remember that unless whatever is your main focus of concern is stood right in front of you with inevitable consequence, you have the opportunity to re-route your path, Think Slow Act Fast easy to say not easy to do when fear grips at your heart strings then climbs like an icicle up through your brain clouding your thoughts and play hide and seek with your emotion, but again stop and look around, things are almost always exactly the same as they were the moment before your fear went into overdrive, so whatever you do slow down your thoughts be methodical and then put those thoughts into action with the speed precision and purpose that only a razor sharp plan of action can command. Smash 100 percent everyday and in every action if you think slow forget fear and push your thoughts through to action with every ounce of strength you have you will move forward there is no two ways about it believe in your self and you are 80 percent there.

There is nothing wrong with being happy with the way things are, we are all searching for happiness and if you find it in getting by then that is genuinely awesome, however if that were the case I doubt you would be reading this blog.

Celebrate your husbands/wives/children and cherish them for what they are, your strength, motivation, the rock to cling to during a storm and the precious cargo you must protect as you set sail to a sunnier, happier less stressful land.

Everything else is just leverage.

You can’t hit an invisible target so how do you expect to reach an invisible goal?

So the first thing that I started to think about was “what makes a Superhuman?” and here we have the first of many questions that are completely personal in their reply, however there is a certain amount of commonality when considering this question, it is easy to say that a Superhuman has some extraordinary power or trait that sets them apart from the rest of the human race, but as we are nearly all slaves to the Hollywood machine that is about as far as it goes, they can usually fly and see through walls and lift cars as if they were toys,

as tempting as this was for me to be able to aspire too I was painfully aware that I was never going to fly without a plane wrapped round me and I am far to old to start trying pick up cars!

No I had to dig deeper into the question, for me (and it will inevitably be different for most people) a Superhuman had several traits, physical fitness, a caring selfless personality and financial freedom enough that they could live their life without the stress of money and enrich the lives through education and security of our children and loved ones, and it should be noted that at the beginning of this journey I tick none of the boxes.

More History

I realised sometime before my first catalysing event that I had to change my life but I did not look any further than the need for more money, what I didn’t realise was that I was looking for the wrong commodity, you see money in itself is pointless, money unspent is simply paper at most and a number on a screen at it’s least, if your figure is only double digits and you are unhappy then unless you change your environment that figure can become ten digits or more and you will still be unhappy.

I wandered from business idea to business idea with no direction and no idea of what I was looking to achieve as a result I gained nothing, sure I did get a better job but due to lack of purpose or goal I simply grew quickly into the increased income with no change in environment and thus stayed unhappy.

One observation that I did make at the time was that I never had any idea if what I was doing was getting me anywhere or not, progress through any scheme wasn’t quantifiable, I have now realised in retrospect that this was a direct result of having no end goal, ask yourself this, if you set off out of the house with no destination in mind how do you know how close you are? simple you don’t ! and I didn’t and so I wasted years just aimlessly existing and making no progress at all.

Time to Stop the waffle and make my point!

So I sat down and actually looked at my life, took stock of what was making me unhappy and used that to formulate my goals, they were as follows

  • Physical Fitness (I was hugely overweight)
  • Financial Security for me and my Family (we were broke)
  • Time with the people I love and for myself (I spent most of my time working for a pittance and trying out ideas to make a million)

The way I worked this out was to start at the top, what life would look like if I could wave a magic wand and change all that was wrong overnight, then slowly methodically working back from the top identifying what life needs to be before I can move onto the next stage, the process was long but I eventually had the issues in the brackets above, and the goals without brackets.

Now, there is no magic wand, no five minute montage to inspirational music, and here’s a real kicker nobody is going to help you (at least not for free)

So I encourage you to do the same, and before you start remember some key points to help you keep motivated along the way,

Concentrate on moving Forward

Anything in the past is in the past, this is true of any event that has gone before, agnostic of it being positive or negative we cannot turn back the clock we can and should only ever move forward, sometimes that will clearing up mistakes of the past, and that is perfectly fine, in fact the lack of courage to admit past mistakes is what holds a lot of us back, and of course facing the pain of whatever we need to do to fix the mistakes, I tell you something, it certainly kept me back for a lot of years.

You have not failed

A person can only be regarded as a failure if they do not get back up, on your journey, as in mine there will be things that do not go exactly as planned, that is life not a reflection of your effort, and it affects as us all, you have already begun to fight back by looking for an alternative to your current situation.

Don’t forget the cliche

You get out what you put in, it is old and far from original but it is true, 100 percent effort will give 100 percent return, careful though cos 1 percent effort will give 1 percent return, be vary wary of people offering quick fixes to all your problems.

Quick reminder

I am sharing my journey because I fell into every trap and went down nearly every rabbit hole before I learnt how to start putting my life back together, while I will never charge anybody directly for my musings through subscription or such, I do fully intend to make as much money as possible from advertising and affiliate schemes, and I completely encourage anybody to do the same.

The Beginning and some History

I have (along with others) Spent not countless hours but a good few looking at the things that interest me on Social Media, And like many others I have been jealous of these peoples “Lifestyles”,

The problem with Social Media is it has provided a platform that is addictive and as with any anything addictive we as humans will try and manipulate that for our own gains, now I am not going to start banging on about the evils of the internet as these have been well documented in publications that have far more credibility than mine !

And I am not going to start talking about conspiracy theories and what the information that we supply to social media is used for, again this has been well documented by popular traditional media when it has occurred ,

I also do not like to practice any kind of hypocrisy so I cannot start telling people to get off the internet through a medium that is based on the internet.

So I have set out to see if any of the “bright light, promise the world” claims are true, because if they are the Internet could just hold the key to becoming Superhuman (or thereabouts).

So I will look at many sources of information out there and where they seem to have merit will catalogue, on here my experience with the teachings and what it has brought me good or bad, as part of this I will of course be looking to make money so I will as time goes on, and if I find anything I can advocate add the odd affiliate link which I would be grateful if anybody were to use.

So the goals are as follows,

  • Wealth – We all want to have more money
  • Mental Fitness – we need to be able to learn quicker in order to earn more (not a tagline, a fact)
  • Physical Fitness – Live as long and as healthy as possible
  • Family Harmony – Self explanatory and at the end of the list as I believe the lack of progress on the top three causes this one to be difficult if not impossible

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