Fragility of Dreams

Chasing Freedom Through Adversity

Firstly let’s get this out of the way, making millions on the internet is like winning the lottery in more ways than one, sure they both feel good and they both set you free and normally happen very fast, a lottery win means you go to bed one night not a millionaire and when you wake up you are (assuming you hit the jackpot of course) and the story appears to be very much the same with the internet, you work seemingly at nothing for a period of time and then you hit that one formula or niche that then sends you sky-rocketing.

But they also share another trait, the desire to participate is a personal decision and anybody who has bought a lottery ticket, just like watching the next “How I became a Millionaire in 7 short days” video, I would be willing to bet has sat and daydreamed about what their life would be like if that money was theirs.

It is our personal dream, our vision and our desire that we follow, and others (usually our closest friends and family) that start to question us as we spend more time researching and looking into how to start and what to do and start watching videos of people sounding very positive and in a lot of cases talking what appears to be non-sense about lifestyles and possessions reserved only for celebrities.

You see our dreams are fragile because we haven’t got anything to show for it yet, nothing physical to stand in our corner when people question what we are doing, what we hope to achieve and in the face of the age old question “if it was that easy wouldn’t everybody be doing it?” you have to protect that dream and hold on to it for dear life, because that is what we are buying, our lives back from the world.

It is so much harder to listen to and defend against negative views and comments from loved ones than the rest of the world, people outside our trusted social circle are easy to dismiss, they don’t know us, they don’t know anything about what we have achieved in the past or what the situation is now, so what possible value could their un-informed comment have?

But our closest circle, have listened to our plans (if you are anything like me probably at length and very enthusiastically), they do know us because the live with us or we see and speak to them on a very regular basis, and finally they are aware of what we have achieved in our lives so far, so their opinion cannot be dismissed so easily can it?

Well here is an odd way to think about it but try this, unless you are lucky enough to have a significant other/spouse, or an enthusiastic business partner that is following your progress and learning and has the same dream as you, then you need to cut them a break, don’t get angry when they question what you are doing and what the chances are, or how much do others make, even “well I don’t see how you can make money from it, it’s just [insert social media here] or why would people buy from you on [insert chosen affiliate program here]” sit down and calmly explain it to them, after all if you do not have the answers to hand then it is a valid question, if you don’t know what you are chasing then is it obtainable ? and if you do have the answers to hand, reciting them and educating your audience will only serve to further strengthen your resolve and cement the process in your own mind.

You cannot explain what it feels like to take off handcuffs for the first time, but you can vocalise the freedom of moving your arms.

Be patient with the people closest to you always, they only see the extra time and the stress and sometimes the disappointment caused by a set back or a plan deviation, a wife/husband may also see the bank balance going down with nothing coming in, and children can pick up on all this and more, when this happens STOP and think back to your images of success, look closely at the faces of the people in the images and make sure you do not alienate them because if you really think about it, those images without those faces are pretty grim.

Money in solitude is toxic, it turns in on us, chase freedom chase life and success, money will follow.

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Wealth, Proper Wealth!

Stop playing at it and commit to changing your life

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I have a job, fortunately for me it is fairly well paid and we can do nice things once or twice a year without too much concern and we live in a nice house, obviously this varies up and down the job spectrum and some people will make more than others and they will have differing lifestyles as a result,

But I have never been happy with the way things are, I along with many many others have always aspired to bigger and better things, and have gained these things using the only vehicle open to me Credit.

  • Credit Card Debt Alone in the UK – An average of £2,688 unpaid on Credit Cards per household
  • Credit Card Debt Alone in the US – An average of $7,000 Per Credit Card Holder

Another staggering example of how much this costs to repay I found actually on a letter from my Credit Card company, at current rates If I borrowed £1,000 and made the minimum payment each month it would take 20 years to pay it off and I would be paying over £2,500 in interest!

This is because we are conditioned from an early age to listen at school get jobs and prop up the corporate system with interest payments on a borrowed lifestyle, a Job will in the vast majority of cases keep you poor.

What is the Alternative ?

A second job? could do but when are you supposed to live? we are here for such a small time and the and even smaller amount of time to enjoy freedom of choice and self-responsibility so no a second job is not really the alternative, besides in the UK (and I am sure elsewhere) when the Government get wind that you have a second job and might be trying to improve your lot in life they increase the TAX on it to the point where in most cases it becomes worthless.

We are doomed then ?

Again, no there are (and I know I do not need to tell you this) many many ways to become rich, the internet has changed the playing field and now even vacuous pseudo celebrities with nothing more to say than what they had for breakfast and what underpants they are going to wear today become multi-millionaires, people work hard at affiliate marketing and finally get the breakthrough they need and make a lot of money every day, or they learn enough to peddle a course to learn how to market or both!

Ways to make money online

  • Affiliate Marketing – One of the highest potentials as the scope to sell to millions of people is vast, remember a single Dollar from 1 million people is still a million.
  • Social Media – sell your life online, with enough followers you will be contacted by people wanting you to sell stuff for them.
  • Online Market Trading – Again a way to make a lot of money, unfortunately also a way to lose a lot of money, thing to remember here is that you are trying mimic traders, and they have studied at length to do what they do, don’t be fooled into thinking you can get a system and order the Lambo on the same day!
  • Motivational Speaking / Social Media – “Cough Cough” lots of people have set themselves up as motivational speakers and these range from the bland simple posting of a nice picture with some inspirational words over the top to actual content that has been considered and has some value, as a side note I try to be the latter, this has the opportunity to make a small fortune done right, and done right a colossal difference to potentially millions of lives, so win win!
  • Paid For…. – Scraping the barrel a little here I have looked at numerous versions of these and found them all to be paid so little that the time to carry out the task is much more valuable, some may be good but I have not found any yet.

There are also many many more, but these are the main ones I have looked at, the only real rule is to learn, sure get the framework from others who have walked the path, but it is always “Buyer Beware” look closely at the videos, Google the names, although you will always find results that suggest SCAM, look at both arguments equally before making a decision, we can learn from any source it is what we do with the knowledge that is important.

So the goal here is to be the best I can be, and make as much money as is required to not have to worry about money, sure money alone will not bring happiness but when was the last time you didn’t have money on your mind ? and was it that you had to much ?……

One thing I would suggest and is where I have started is to get rid of as much debt as you can, free up as much of your own money as possible and start to buy your way out of the Hamster wheel, most of us refer to it as the rat race but this is to suggest that there is effort in vain, that success will never be attained and that we are participating in self-deprecating activities, but a race can also be WON, so I hope that you like me, will join all the other rats, leave the Hamsters on their wheels and get the cheese just as countless others have.

It would be awesome to get comments below and start discussion among like-minded people, as I said there is always something to learn and discussion as the mother of idea, without it there can be knowledge transferral.

Practice the Preaching ep7

Morning All! , I have had a bit of a milestone this morning and I would like to share, my training has up until now been a little, shall we say “instinctive” by which of course, I mean that I pretty much did what I felt like doing, with a few things that were a constant, but the problem with that is that is is difficult to measure progress without any baseline to compare against, so I began running/jogging/fast walk, as alluded to in a previous episode, and today I reached what is seen (I think) as a bit of a Milestone target of 5k, now before I share my stats don’t get too excited as they need improvement but I managed it in 41mins 48seconds at an average pace of 8:05/km (according to Strava), I then figured a good accompaniment to this would be some stretching so followed a 20 min yoga stretching routine from PsycheTruth on YouTube.

One thing this journey has done so far is improve my confidence in all the paths of my life and I am shocked at the elevated mood that you get after running so will be keeping it up, I will be able to try some natural methods of increasing aerobic capacity and report on my findings there as well now, see if I can prove/disprove some myths or hidden wisdom often circulated around the NET.

So to anybody reading this (and I pray there is at least two!) have an awesome day and just like me this morning puffing, looking a little pale and wanting to be sick try and break into a metaphorical jog as often as you can and sit down tonight having achieved everything you set out to do today.

P.S or physical jog if you happen to be out for some exercise.

Practice the Preaching ep6

Do Real things for Real results

So up for a run this morning and it made me think a couple of things, one the world is a beautiful place and I can’t believe sometimes how much we humans have been known to take it for granted, and two just how much harder running in real life is compared to a session on the treadmill.

Yesterday at the gym I did 45 minutes running at 7.5km/h at an incline of 7, I burned (according to the probably highly inaccurate) calories counter just over 500 calories, and afterwards I had a minute to calm down and then I happily wandered to my car to pick up my daughter from her club she attends.

Today, I ran 2.5Km at a pace of 8km/h and burned 375 calories in 21 minutes (according to strava, I am not sure about the accuracy of their metric either but that works on the same information I fed into the treadmill) and the really awkward truth about this is that in all activities, making money, bodybuilding, getting fit, and I can now add running to that list in bold and underlined, we get better results if we don’t look for the easy path in, sure you should always consult a doctor and make sure you are healthy enough to push yourself, the goal here is to live long and healthy and if possible not to die trying, but a real walk in the real world will always beat a slow jog on a treadmill, free weights are always better than machines and coming up with a method to make money is always better than trying mimic somebody who has already made it, use these easier methods to educate you and help you up to the first steps but always think and feel for yourself.

And smash it every single day.

Feeling Strong ?

Self-help and motivation has become very dear to my heart in recent years and I personally find it comforting that there a lot of people out there that do genuinely want to help, from the big names that fill auditoriums to the YouTube warriors that post incessantly, some with good intentions and morals and some with questionable motives largely found reciting industry standard rhetoric to a backdrop of a couple of piles of cash and some royalty free inspirational music, no names are required as we all have experienced these differing styles and their respective protagonists I imagine many times over.

Something happened to me specifically today, I had a moment of fear, a moment when the slow pace of progress closes round you like a cold encompassing blanket and seems to choke the energy right out of you, where all the carefully thought out plans and schemes suddenly seem unobtainable and you freeze unable to see a way forward.

Fear hits us all, I don’t care who or where you are, male or female, young or old, it is how we deal with it that counts and it is how we deal with it that will determine the pace at which you achieve your goals and in some cases if you ever do.

I have read a couple of books that are starting to suggest that we should maybe try and look for the good in what we have and not try to attain anything more, while this leaves me conflicted I do think it is a flawed and potentially harmful message, I mean people look to these places and people for inspiration and motivation, only to be told to not try to hard and look at the prospect of just being content with what you have, it must be a huge disappointment and for some difficult to recover from.

So here is a little mid-week motivation and each word is not only from my heart but it is fresh in my mind as I have gone through those emotions just today.

Feel strong, don’t question it just feel it look out into the open and just feel strong, remember that unless whatever is your main focus of concern is stood right in front of you with inevitable consequence, you have the opportunity to re-route your path, Think Slow Act Fast easy to say not easy to do when fear grips at your heart strings then climbs like an icicle up through your brain clouding your thoughts and play hide and seek with your emotion, but again stop and look around, things are almost always exactly the same as they were the moment before your fear went into overdrive, so whatever you do slow down your thoughts be methodical and then put those thoughts into action with the speed precision and purpose that only a razor sharp plan of action can command. Smash 100 percent everyday and in every action if you think slow forget fear and push your thoughts through to action with every ounce of strength you have you will move forward there is no two ways about it believe in your self and you are 80 percent there.

There is nothing wrong with being happy with the way things are, we are all searching for happiness and if you find it in getting by then that is genuinely awesome, however if that were the case I doubt you would be reading this blog.

Celebrate your husbands/wives/children and cherish them for what they are, your strength, motivation, the rock to cling to during a storm and the precious cargo you must protect as you set sail to a sunnier, happier less stressful land.

Everything else is just leverage.

Practice the Preaching ep4

What the hell is going on? For some reason I seem to have completely lost the ability to get up at 4:30 and do anything other than turn the alarm off!

It could well be linked to this cold I have had now for about a week, it is on it’s way out but still……

I did still manage to do a run/walk at 5:45 for a kilometre and a half, and haven’t wandered into the illness induced gluttony that I would have not that long ago!

So no great revelation today other than I can’t bang on about persistence in the face of adversity and then go quiet on days when I can’t be arsed, or claim I ran a half marathon when infact I was wrapped in a blanket and the only exercise was tapping the screen to post this post.

Onward and upward (albeit whining about being ill and shuffling along to show everybody that I am not well)