Living without borders – your choice not society.

Since the dawn of civilisation man has sought to dominate his fellow man (and women and woman), this appears to be the core of human nature, we seem programmed to either dictate or obey, and I am sure that you are well aware of what type of person you are, the dictators are headstrong and already questioning my point of view, let alone my audacity at voicing it, and the obedient are already nodding in approval at my clumsy summing up of all human nature in less than a single paragraph.

I have never made any secret that I wanted to start this blog to make some money, it is on all previous posts and of course you can see the advertising plastered anywhere on this site that WordPress will allow, but I also wanted to offer my opinion on life and the ways that we can recognise oppression no matter how stealthily it is applied.

Authority

I am no revolutionist calling for the dissolution of government and law in order to be free, the loss of these things would only result in control and oppression from another source, society needs rules and controls in place in order to provide safety and security to the masses, and it is under this guise that we are controlled by stealth in a way more sinister and in an order of magnitude that few will ever give consideration to.

What is Life About?

This depends on your point of view, there are two schools of thought.

Coporate

  1. Learn while at school
  2. Leave school and get a job or go to university and get a better job
  3. Pay TAX and buy things on credit
  4. Save the rest of your money in order to pay for old age and infirmity
  5. Pay off all debts before you reach the end of your working life
  6. Enjoy up to ten years existence before finally dying and leaving space for the next cog in the machine

My View (and increasingly the view of others)

  1. Learn life skills in addition to academia individually focused, the same people that tell us we are all unique are also providing our children with a “one size fits all” education system
  2. Be encouraged to start a business or learn a skill that is relevant or that you have an interest in regardless of gender, race or any other barrier society can think of
  3. Pay TAX and contribute to the well being of your fellow human, sounds odd me saying this but TAX is what underpins civilised society and civic resource without it life would be very very grim
  4. Make enough money to not have to worry about money
  5. Retain the right to anonymity and privacy within the borders of civilised behaviour
  6. Live a fulfilled life where time is spent being productive and forming relationships in equal measure
  7. The right to equality, actual equality where no one person is given an advantage over another regardless of age, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, or lifestyle choice

The Origin of Your Borders

All behaviour is learned once we get past the simple functions of breathing and the desire to eat and drink to sustain ourselves, our tastes our likes and dislikes and desires and aspirations are all a product of our education during the most formative times in our lives Childhood and it is this very programming most of us need to break in order to remove the borders we have built because we were taught to, and this is not always a bad thing, parents on the whole teach us what they think we need to know to keep us safe, we are taught to avoid fire and learn to swim to avoid drowning and social skills in order to not feel alone and make our place in society, and it is also a generational thing, generations have held different things in importance, and this has been passed on to the children who have interpreted it and applied it to their reality like a giant game of Chinese whispers, this is then shaped by peer groups and ultimately partners and the responsibility of children in adult life, but what if what you knew was not true or what you were told was designed to extract money time and life from you ?, a heads up would be nice.

Heads up!

Imagine somebody knocking on your door and coming into your house, complaining about how draughty it was and how cold it was, asking about your energy bills and seeming shocked and appalled at how much it was costing you, this goes on for an hour or so and then they announce themselves as a double glazing salesman, you would question everything they said from the outset, why? because they profit from the system they are selling you, well society is the same, and it must be approached the same, the rules and regulations are all drawn up by the very people that stand to profit from the rules and regulations, and while, as I have stated rules and regulation are required for civilised society to function, you should question the design, look past the glossy brochure of a 3 bed semi detached and a nice family car on finance, booking holidays on credit cards and spending nearly every waking hour on social media.

I am not even remotely trying to tell anybody how to live their life, I am just saying that if you are happy truly happy then fine, you do not need to do anything, just simply go on about your lives as you do now happy and content, but if something niggles you in the night or when you see the next reality star millionaire while you are struggling to put food on the table for your family then start a different thought process to the one you have now, and start asking questions.

What the Hell is my Point ?

This is the point, life is a one time deal, until proved otherwise we are here for one go only and this means we have a finite amount of time, the system isn’t set up to favour the intelligent the brave or noble, it is set up for people that know how to play the game, that is why when you go to work 9 – 5 everyday of your life, pay off your mortgage and only take one holiday a year, you end up struggling through old age and if you have to go into sheltered housing or the care system any legacy that you may have in the form of the house you worked so hard to pay off is sold to relieve the burden on the countries fortunes, whereas people that go on TV or post regularly to social media or can get finance, seem to operate with impunity, they live lavish lifestyles and have all the time in the world to build relationships with partners and children, sadly they mostly just can’t cope with the money and end up broke with a drug habit.

So this is my point, the borders you have to wealth happiness and peace of mind are constructed at an early age by the education system and peers, you (without realising it) then perpetuate these borders as you go through life re-enforcing them and in some cases using them as an excuse for an unsuccessful life, but there is another way.

Rule for Success

This is what I suggest, follow it if you will but at least think about it, Failure is a fact of life, there are many many things that we will fail at, either we just are not capable of doing something or we lack aptitude for a certain discipline, but failure cannot exist without a catalysing action, and this is where your borders are hurting you and holding you back, an example from my own experience is this, I was homeless and in need of a job, I had no money and no way to get any, I have always suffered from a fear of heights it at one point in my life was debilitating it was that bad, but this situation was worse, I saw a construction job that involved working away advertised and went for it, it would solve my accommodation issue (if only during the working week) and would provide enough money for food and at the very least a hotel at the weekend to stay in, so I went for it, my first duty was as a grouter, this meant that I had to climb up a ladder in a newly constructed skeleton of a building and pour concrete into the joints, this was in the open with no safety rails just a ladder and a hard hat, prior to this I had to cork the joint, which meant leaning out over the side of the building and pushing foam into the joint, I froze at the bottom of the ladder, and nearly refused to go up, people were watching and it was a little intense, I had told others and been referred to as the one afraid of heights all my life, but I needed the job and the place to stay, so I climbed, and by the third time I was running up the ladder, without any thought to the height or the great expanses of open space, because I removed the border to my progression, because it was self imposed, I perpetuated the conditioning and therefore I could change it, the border didn’t really exist,

And this is what I am suggesting you do, when you think of doing something and the inner voice says that “it’ll never work” or “you can’t because you are no good at it” stop and realise that it is not real it is a product of control exercised throughout your formative life that you need to rid yourself of, forget the border and try, if you fail you fail but you will never again think “what if?”

Stop watching Porn – and other distractions.

The world is a distracting place that is a fact, and this is not a new thing, historically it has been this way since one person wanted to sell something to another, the only way to do this was through advertising, and so we have moved through many years of experimentation with newspapers and bill boards, radio and TV, and now the internet and tracking algorithms.

This really isn’t an attack on the porn industry (or any other for that matter) mainstream porn i.e. involving consensual adults has it’s place in societies fabric just like any other form of entertainment, but it is the way in which it and other distractions that are targeted that is the issue to the aspiring entrepreneur or student, as these adverts or “Calls to action” are almost almost unavoidable.

Size of the problem.

OK so to continue down the rabbit hole of Porn, the most famous site (no need to name check I feel) had in 2019 115 million visitors a week, as opposed to Udemy, which reported that in 2019 it’s student registration rose to the heady heights of 30 million, an impressive number but vastly skewed, the fact is that humans on the whole have always chosen the path of least resistance, it is in our DNA, this way we tended to live longer and to be able to thrive when opportunity presented itself and survive during times of hardship as we had energy in reserve, so we will look for an easy way to get the reward hormone dopamine, and when we are looking for ways to get this without having to do much more than a couple of mouse clicks it is there in abundance, and not just the Adult variety, when was the last time you found yourself in YouTube spiral where it just kept suggesting new videos and before you knew it you had spent an hour watching stuff 90% of which you hadn’t even asked for?

Why this is bad.

To illustrate this ironically we just need to look at the people we envy the most and how this is changing as we go further into the machine, not so long ago our people envy was the confine of rock and film stars, merchant bankers and the elite business people such as Richard Branson and Elon Musk, but as times change we are looking in other places and the distractions from the day to day tedium are becoming the single source of dopamine, YouTube, Instagram, Snapchat, Messaging, online video, bloggers, vloggers, and tutorials, and that is not to mention all the get rich using my system folks, all these distractions simply make money for the people that have figured out the system, they have embraced the new world and are using it to make their corner comfy at the expense of the masses.

So what do I suggest ?

After all I am trying to make my bit of the world cosier by writing this blog and putting advertising on it aren’t ?, well yes I am and no doubt the vast majority or people reading this will have their own blogs and other social media, that they are trying to make money from all chasing the dream of the “laptop lifestyle” we hear so much about, and this is fine I am not suggesting that we stop doing or searching for what we like to see, hear or read on the internet, my point is that of paramount importance is the time we spend being productive against the time we spend kicking back congratulating ourselves on being masters of our own destiny while following an algorithm designed to draw you in through adverts or video interests or even music, there are a host of applications out there to help remove the distractions and the advertisements from browser based ad removers to running a raspberry pi on your network with something like pi-hole running on it, that blocks ads and uses blacklists to help protect against surfing to malicious websites, but really the best defence is to be mindful, try and complete any tasks that are going to improve your life or forward your business, blog, vlog or online company before sitting down and allowing the internet to suck you in and take hours of your time.

Conclusion

Time is finite thing and I personally have wasted so much of it that it is almost criminal, stop being distracted and look at everything in terms of cost, how much time will this cost me and for what reward ?

if the time is equal to or less than the reward it is a good thing if not then, it should be regarded as a leisure activity and done after work has been completed, the rush of dopamine you will get from financial independence and abundance, will last for a lifetime and far outweigh the hour or so pleasure following the internet as it twists and turns our minds and wallets wringing out as much profit as it can.

Are Healthy Supplements Killing you?

I am not the first and I most definitely will not be the last to ask this question, it had occurred to me previously that the level of trust we have in the supplement industry far outstrips the trust we have in professional health care, I mean after all when was the last time that you were prescribed tablets and just took them without a seconds thought, or indeed a lengthy talk from the medical professional with regard to possible side effects and dosage levels?

Yet we stream through the doors and surf the websites of health food shops daily spending millions on vitamin tablets, protein supplements and mineral compositions that are sold to us as a healthy alternative to medicine at best and at worst a cure for our ills.

I have recently been experimenting with varying supplementation and have had some mixed results, and some fairly disturbing ones, this has prompted me to write this article to get people thinking about the sheer amount of “supplements” we take and for what reason.

First A Word About the Industry

The UK vitamin industry according to https://www.hfma.co.uk/media-events/industry-facts/ was worth, in 2016 £421 million, and the market in the USA is worth an estimated $37 Billion, this encompasses sports supplementation and vitamins, minerals and general health supplement sales over the counter, this means that no matter what the tagline of an advert, you can be fairly sure there is a lot of money behind advertising it, additionally and more alarming from a consumer point of view is the amount of white label supplement companies that will allow you to design and package your own supplements and sell these on Amazon or Ebay or even at the local market, you can tailor the product essentially to meet the amount of profit you wish to receive from the sale and after the company has made the supplement packaged it and then labelled it for you I would imagine that the temptation to drop the more expensive ingredients down is quite strong.

This has another issue though, given the wide spread and cheap entry into the industry through this route, one can only imagine that the amount of actually different supplements on the market is quite small, and this means that we are making choices about which products to buy based on the quality of the label of which person is representing the product to us.

However we can still rely on the big chain companies can’t we ? well I guess from a quality control point of view yes we probably can, after all they will have the buying power to provide the best ingredients at a reasonable price, if they do or not depends on the integrity of the company I guess, but shoudl we even be taking them in first place?

Health food store checkup ?

The health food store shopping experience is a varying animal, occasionally you will encounter somebody who has done some training or is an enthusiast themselves, but ordinarily you are dealing with nothing more than a shop assistant, while they may be very good at serving people and very attentive while you are in the store this does not mean that their advice will extend much past the company line, partially because they probably don’t know better and partially because essentially they are employed to sell stuff for profit.

I made several purchases from my local Health store and was never once asked if I was deficient in what I was buying, or if I had any reason to suggest that I required a higher dosage than I would be receiving from my diet, or what my diet was for that matter, my purchases were simply rung up and I was sent on my way.

I feel that this is the first hurdle to be honest, this is really where there should be some interception and questions asked, for instance take a firm favourite of the health food store vitamin C, this little firm favourite is water soluble and can neither be manufactured nor stored by the body, it is consumed and used and flushed out taking free radical cells with it , it plays a fundamental role in the absorption of iron and has been shown to assist the immune system and has links to helping to prevent some forms of cancer, this is all good news, vitamin C (ascorbic acid) is definately something we can benefit from, but at what dosage ?

When walking into a store there are many options, 500mg, 1000mg, 2000mg, buffered, non buffered, tablets, soluble literally the list goes on.

The recommended average daily intake for a healthy women is 75mg and 120mg if pregnant or breastfeeding, already we are way over that stated dose, so it is unclear why they should then go on to sell the higher dosages when 75mg would get the job done and that is the recommended intake, so at that we have not even considered dietary vitamin C (vitamin content present in our daily food intake).

The dosages however do start to have a sense of reason, albeit a little sinister when you consider the tolerable upper limit for adults is 2000mg or 2 grams a day, beyond this the concentration of vitamin C can lead to some pretty unpleasant effects to name a few, diarrhoea, nausea, headache and at the worse end gout, kidney and liver complications.

An accepted amount that is beneficial is around 500mg, this has been found to assist in certain situations on of which was a study on macular degeneration, during an age related eye disease study it was show when used with other vitamins and minerals to slow the progression of the disease.

There is vitamin C in the vast majority of food we eat, and it is added to a lot of breakfast cereals and especially for children as their diets tend to lack whole foods and therefore require supplementation to maintain the balance.

My Experience

Ok so onto the reason why I felt I needed to look further into this, I started looking around for ways to make myself stronger, healthier and more mentally agile, as a result I ended up following a course of the below supplements.

  • Fenugreek – A natural herb linked to the production of testosterone, as a man now in my mid forties, my testosterone levels have been steadily dropping for the last 10 to 15 years, and I wanted to find a way to halt this, fenugreek has been shown to increase levels of free testosterone in males when supplemented at 500mg a day, it does this through its constituent Protodioscin a saponin that may support the production of testosterone.
  • Tribulus Terrestris – Essentially added as it has been marketed as a testosterone booster by itself, it is considered to increase the potency of Fenugreek when taken along side, it is used widely for the treatment of many things but one of it’s reported effects is to increase certain hormones, testosterone is one, although you don’t have to dig to far into the research to see that the evidence is pretty weak.
  • Vitamin B complex – this was both to help with cognitive function as wel as the role that vitamin B plays in energy utilisation and in the muscle building process, by helping with the production of red blood cells directly helps provide more oxygen to muscles, allowing them to work harder and recover quicker.
  • Vitamin C – for recovery and immune assistance
  • Alpha-GPC – A nootropic compound that has been shown to increase brain activity and in fact is used in the medical profession to help treat Alzheimer’s and further studies have shown that when taken before an intense workout can increase growth hormone output post workout by significant amounts.
  • Fish Oil – for the EPA DHEA content again for cognitive function also it does contain omega-3 fats which are absolutely essential and were lacking in my diet as I was trying to cut down on my bodyfat quite drastically and was eating next to no fat at all.

Now that may seem like a long list, and I suppose actually that it is, if my calculations were correct I should have been a quick thinking, strong quick recovering masterpiece of an individual, instead the opposite was actually true, I was becoming tired, and I mean falling asleep at the steering wheel tired, on several occasions I had to pull over and literally have a quick nap before continuing my journey home from work, I had headaches, really big ones, not stress headaches these were different, as if my blood pressure were elevated during a big deadlift or some kind of heavy compound exercise like that, my balance was of and I had to bail out of several workouts due to fatigue and generally feeling unwell, I had become confused as well at work easy repetitive tasks needed concentration more than before, the answer took a while but it was fairly obvious I needed to stop the tablets !

I stopped taking them on a Monday, and immediately the headache that I would develop while driving to work did not materialise, it took about a week for my imbalance to stop and go back to normal and my workouts took around 3 weeks to stabilise and only now (some 5 weeks from stopping ) am I able to truly push myself at the gym again.

Conclusion

I feel that I got out just in time, the detrimental effect that all the tablets was having was becoming intrusive it had affected my home life, my work and my training, I even took some time away from this website as a result of struggling to concentrate, but all the time I was convinced that these things were safe to take, why? because they are sold that way, the shops are bright and on the high street, websites are not seedy http affairs that you need a special browser for and pay only in bitcoin, so you think that all will be well, but the truth is that anything we put into our bodies is a balancing act, it can be hugely beneficial in small doses and poisonous in large, or it can be wholly ineffective in a small does and only worth taking more than is recommended, the supplement / health food industry is vast and does help billions of people make better choices, get healthier and live longer, but we have to remember that it is an industry, and it is going to make profit as and where it can see it, unfortunately that means that if they can sell something that won’t harm you unless you take a lot more than they recommend then they will because you will be a repeat customer, in exactly the same way as a supplement company will sell you a weight gainer loaded with sugar instead of protein because it is cheap and you will feel great when you start using it because you muscles will fill out with the extra calories and you will have boundless energy, at no point will they inform you that you could have got the same effect from eating a large quantity of doughnuts.

I am definitely not saying that we should not buy supplements, simply that we should use the intelligence that I lacked when I embarked on my rampage and dose ourselves accordingly, remember that you are putting extra something in your body, and in the case of vitamins and minerals the irony is that the majority of people that consider taking these things will also give consideration to their diets and as such probably are not deficient in the vast majority of the products they buy, they just don’t notice any side effects because they stay within a limit set to avoid any detrimental feeling.

The supplement industry is not evil or malicious, it is just profit driven, and anything profit driven has the potential to weigh potential for comeback against the profit made by selling the product in the first place, and that is where the consumer misses out if they don’t stop and clarify the claim of the companies on their products and also their own individual requirements.

Before embarking on any supplementation regime you should always look at your diet first, and make the adjustments there where you can, the clue is in the name supplement, the human body is an amazing thing and it knows what it needs from food and drink to help us to grown and thrive doing the tasks that we choose, it will adapt and grow or shrink as required, you will get faster or stronger through repetition and all through the bodies own devices, majority of supplement advice is to take that delicate system of hormones and proteins and hit it with a sledgehammer, if you imagine trying to fit a square peg in around hole, using a lathe to turn the peg and make it fit will take time and patience but the end result will be perfect, the peg can however be made to fit with a large hammer and enough brute force, but it will be ugly and weak broken and unreliable, life is a marathon not a sprint.

When not being the best is better

I was recently at my daughters drama class and the teacher was talking us through how they put a play together in a the 1 hour lesson that she has every week, she (the teacher) was a very animated character and dare I say exactly what I would have pictured a drama teacher to be, very pronounced without shouting and very keen on the detail of instruction she was giving, her opening line when we all arrived was that she wanted to show the parents of the attendees what it was that they do there and how they form a lesson and the goals they are trying to achieve when they do, one of the things that she said during this speech got me thinking and I wanted to share my thoughts in case anybody wished to share their view.

“It is not about being perfect or even getting the words right all the time it is about doing and learning as they go, there is so much talk about being the best version of yourself these days and always striving to be perfect that people especially children must be exhausted”

I have extolled the virtues of striving for perfection on many an occasion and it is only now that I started to think that pushing for perfection is not only futile in occasions where the result is forced to be a product of collaboration but sometimes so tiring that it becomes a very draining ethos, which could potentially be destructive, and ultimately subverting our goals as we struggle to achieve them through the brain fog of exhaustion.

Now, anybody who has read anything I have done will be familiar with the fact that I like to have proof of something before I will adopt or attempt to pass it on as information to others, and this is no exception, I watched in wonder as this teacher, without raising her voice to a shout moved 15 children aged between 6 and 12 through this play that they had seen for the first time that night, and after just 45 minutes, we had a 10 minute play where I would say 85% of timings were correct and dialogue was remembered, the children had started to add complimentary movement to their parts and had started to extend their lines all within context, it was astounding to see all these different personalities working together and learning through enjoyment.

I am not saying that there is not a place for perfection and striving to be the best, merely that we need to recognise that moment of fatigue in all of us and act on it, lighten up a bit and realise that forced progress is sometimes slower and always a lot harder than relaxed progress, Bruce Lee was famous for the 1 inch punch and always taught pupils to relax the muscles of the hand and arm while punching as a tight clenched fist cannot travel as fast as a relaxed one, he was right and this was proved in many demonstrations the same can be said for the mind, a stressed “tight” mind will never learn as quickly as a relaxed one that is open and has time to spare.

I guess what I saw was not really the play about the Russian Cave that was being performed but rather that changing from the intense method of corrective education i.e. “that was wrong” or “do it again you weren’t on time” to a more lead form where the word wrong was never used, not even once despite some initial lines being quoted wrong and a couple of missed cue’s, was that when we are all relaxed we learn quicker, we retain more information and with a greater accuracy, so I guess what I am saying is if you are struggling with a subject or a method, be it academic or entrepreneurial then instead of beating yourself up and getting stressed, essentially blocking your own progress you should stop, take a deep breath (or two depending on how stressed you are) and look at what you are doing for what it is, try and find the enjoyment in your activity, and do not berate yourself for making mistakes, every fortune and large company was built on a foundation of error, that is how we learn, approach new concepts or technical challenges as an opportunity to a burden and you will see that as cortisol levels drop your whole mental state will become less toxic and you will move along at a faster pace than you ever thought possible.

Nootropics – Bigger, Leaner, Faster You !

Just a quick note to point out the new article I have written on Alpha-GPC, we are all trying to get that advantage over the competition and nootropics may just be the answer, I have been using Alpha-gpc for 3 weeks now (at time of writing) and have had some very positive results from it (and a few negative), I would like to share them with you and hopefully help you find that edge we all need to succeed.

The article is here and I hope you enjoy reading it, please leave any comments or suggestions.

Determination – Your Power, Your Journey

All to often we allow the power of self fulfilling prophecy to work against us, for a job interview we will continually think we are going to be late and end actually making ourselves late, or we convince ourselves that the guy or girl that we like would never like us so we don’t make an effort for fear of failure and guess what ? they never notice us!

Internal dialogues and self talk happen all day, every day, if we are aware of it or not, decisions are made on a subconscious level that determine the directions our lives take, with the exception of the very urgent “fight or flight” decisions these are all made with Reason and after an internal dialogue where we weigh up the chances of success versus failure and then act accordingly.

The problem with these conversations is that for most us they are biased against us this is most likely due to self preservation, and is not something that we all feel to equal measure.

Believe in Yourself!

How many times have you heard this, just believe in yourself and all will be well, it is more difficult however than it sounds as this requires the changing of your whole inner dialogue, you must reverse a subconscious level of thinking (not easily done) and you must find a way to remove the limits that you have set without knowing it, I personally am a firm believer in the power of the human spirit, years of observation have seen me notice that on some level my inner dialogue, my narrative that exists only in the deepest parts of my mind, influence and shape the world around me, and very rarely for the better I can tell you.

Break the cycle

Human behaviour is learned through pattern and repetition, for both motor skills and thought process, we ultimately become a product of our upbringing because this is the behaviour we see everyday, and so it becomes ingrained into our thought processes and our personalities, but we can change it, we can make a shift from one cycle to another, there is no shortage of research on making and breaking habits and one in particular found that it took nearly 12 weeks to form a habit and some people took nearly 254 days so don’t be too concerned if you have been telling yourself in the mirror that you are great for three days and you don’t feel any different.

Make Your Gestures Big

I used to be a nightclub doorman (bear with me) and I feel that tackling this situation is a lot like that, by the end of the night people were largely inebriated and their thought processes were impaired, conscious thought was cloudy and they were mostly running on sub-conscious activity to find their way home, my job, among others was to clear out the bar / club at the end of the night and I found after working this job for some twenty years that there was a very effective and distinct way to deal with this situation, you see shouting and hollering was not the answer, because hostility is just returned and talking quietly and not really making your presence felt was also pointless because you weren’t enough of an annoyance to cause an effect,

The most effective way to deal with this was to stand just that bit closer than you would normally, so you are not threatening but you are completely unavoidable and speak loudly and calmly repeatedly requesting that they leave as the night is over, and if you kept your cool and were patient the message got through within about 5 minutes for the lest drunk and the ones that could hardly stand got the idea within about 20 minutes.

My point is that I was dealing with people in the same mindset as we are when addressing our sub-conscious and trying to change what it wants to do, we are comfortable where we are and we feel safe because we are familiar with our surroundings, conscious thought that can reason that change is a positive is not in play and so we do not want to move, getting angry with ourselves is futile because we just become angry back and break all communication and trying to change a habit by gently whispering to ourselves each day just won’t cut it, we won’t hear the whispers,

The only way is speak clearly and unmistakably every time you get the chance, challenging all the things that you are convinced you are no good at, and don’t stop, don’t give up on yourself.

Determination is measured by the progress you make through adversity.

Me

Technique

Effectiveness is often mirrored by simplicity, I wouldn’t go downt he route of tying string round your finger or setting alarms to sit and concentrate on bigging yourself up, rather you need to start to listen, listen to your inner dialogues and start to recognise where they are working against you, and simply change the dialogue, as I have said previously change “I can’t” to “I can’t at the minute”, change “I am not good enough” to “I am not ready yet”, leave everything open ended, without the ability for your inner dialogue to close the door on a discussion you can modify the direction and message until you naturally follow the more positive path, take time to meditate, even if it sounds a little hokey and you feel silly doing it, by removing the outside noise of everyday life, even for 5 minutes, you can concentrate on what you are thinking and feeling and challenge all these beliefs you have about yourself,

Spirituality is not just banging gongs and Joss sticks (sorry if I offended anybody, seriously if you want to bang a gong then crack on!) it is about harnessing your own spirit and gaining from it, the foundation of success is much deeper than a bank account, but that account is much more achievable from a basis of inner strength.

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Emotional intelligence – thought before action.

Hiring criteria changes about as often as the poles, but even employers are recognising that the ability to think slow and reasoned even when under pressure makes for a better employee, and if you can master it will help you in your own financial and health journey too, never beat yourself up over things, always listen to constructive criticism and help others where you can.

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